Hi all
I am in a new smallish town and don't know anyone. How would you suggest I go about building a social circle? I have a busy job but I get out as often as I can. I don't have a lot of time. I used to do martial arts until I broke an ankle and destroyed my shoulders. I now run and will join a running group. I don't think that loud clubs appeal to me (or I should try anyway?). I am looking for male and female friends. I have started the online dating thing but quite frankly I don't find it all that appealing.
Thanks for looking. You guys are great!

why dont you find it appealing? You have both age and demographic obstacles and you are already ruling it out?

Beggars can't be choosers

OP: Build a social circle from women online.

I was in the position as you. Met as many attractive women, HB 7 or greater, and built a social circle from them. Met brothers that were cool to hang with, some of their guy friends, etc...... Lots of women to go out with, even a few relationships and some guy friends in a new town.


Tried going to clubs and even a little day game. But in your position online is so much faster to build a social circle. Seriously, try going to a club and number closing three attractive women in a matter of two hours ALONE.

It's hard moving to a new town, but we have it easy with PoF and Cupid.


Online, you've got to have pretty good texting and date closing skills. So work on that if it's a weak area for your game.

Good luck.

Thanks for this. It is very helpful.
I have been disenchanted with the online thing. All the women I have met were anything but attractive in the flesh.
I will attend a boot camp as I have never actually been in a club. Sad.
I am continuing the online thing. I will have to work on my text and messaging skills.

Think deeply about the kind of people you want to hang out with and the women you want in your life. Try to imagine what things they'll enjoy, the kind of places they would hang out and the type of life they would lead.

Once you've get a great image of that in your head, start doing those things, hanging out in those places and leading that kind of life.

The rest will work itself out naturally.

Your boy,
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As dlightmen astutely pointed out your online game and profile probably aren't very good if you are anything like 80% of the guys online. Im gonna guess this is exactly the case. Improve your profile and your game and your results will dramatically improve with more attractive woman. "David M" has a good online PUA course which goes over some stuff which should help you a lot.

Boot camps are expensive and serve more for motivation then for learning considering you could just buy a shit ton of material for the same cost and study it on your own, as well as read these forums. However if you have the money to burn by all means it will be helpful.

At 48 what kinds of clubs do you plan on going to? Of all venues you could go to clubs would be last on my list for getting woman. I do fairly well, and I am younger then you, and would rarely go to a dance club. Either your going to a cougar lounge for pickup and and I really dont fuck woman my own age except as an exception, or you go to a normal club where the average girl is 22-30 and you are the oldest dude there and look like a creeper no matter how good your game is. Perhaps you just mean lounge or bar when you say club, but they arnt the same thing.

I have never been to a bar, club or lounge. I don't drink.
How I got here: 3 years ago I realized I needed to grow up. I got a divorce. I met a fantastic young woman and proceeded to screw up the relationship. I have been reading, studying and pursuing everything I can to enable me to keep growing. I have studied nutrition, I run, I am at home only when I have to be be, otherwise I am looking for activities such as social meetups or sitting at a coffee shop. I will be attending a meditation course.
The fact that I have never gone after a woman is a major obstacle for me. The women in my life have always found me and approached me. This is the main reason why I have to attend a boot camp. It will force me to do this. Although I don't have money to blow, I am not poor and I am more than happy to invest money for personal growth.
I need to learn social skills and emotional intelligence.