Note: I am not sure if this is the right place to post this. If it's not, I apologize in advance and ask if it can be moved to the correct location.

After being here for a bit and looking through the material I have a basic understanding on how things work. I only have one problem, I am NOT funny.

I'm about 17 years old and I do have an understanding of what is funny. (The list of pickups lines sure were funny, especially when imagine their reactions)

However, I cannot, no matter the situation, seem to come up with something funny on the spot. Time and time again, I crack a joke but it's at wrong times or sometimes have the thunder stolen from me.


It's a little frustrating, so I just want to ask what are some tips to improving this. What can I do to develop a fun personality to be around with.

Note: I am confident, don't really have fear of approaching new people (what's the worst that could happen- rejection not really a big deal), and have a basic understanding of the material provided by this forum.

Also, thank you for taking the time to read.

Hey!
Don't worry about being "funny" you don't need it, nobody does. Don't try to be something that you are not, if being funny doesn't go with your personality then don't do it because it's not going to look natural.
I wouldn't advice trying to make her laugh if you don't know the girl very well because you might have different sense of humour so if you are trying to be "funny" wait until you know her a little bit better.

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I would disagree here, I think humor of one of the corner stones of attraction. If you ask any women, or look on any dating website (POF, flirt, etc) almost 100% of women list humor or being funny as important.

Now sure you can get women without being funny, but that's like fishing with low grade bait. Why not upgrade your bait to catch the fish you want? Your humor, health and social intuition are the initial steps to attracting women.

I would recommend spending as much time possible with the people you know who are funny. Watch stand up. Humor can be learnt trust me, try to see when it is that people make jokes, how and when they deliver their punchlines. More often than not, jokes told in any other way are not funny.

SMILE! you got this.

Recommendation: Humor Theory: Formula of Laughter

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"Lets get out of here..."

you don't have to be funny,

and stop trying to be funny,

if you want to make people feel good and laugh, then you are focusing on the wrong aspects of the interaction, what you say and the jokes you use are not what gets people, focus instead on the emotions you feel, and making yourself laugh, people will follow, don't ''try to get people to laugh'', just make yourself feel happy to the point of being extatic then speak what is on your mind with no need to make sense or use logic with what is comming out of your mouth

I completely understand what you are saying, it's not the same being funny than making a girl laugh so keep that in mind.

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Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers do not like to do 18/03/12

daniel456

I understand that you really wanted to be funny and show people that you can make them happy! Even me I enjoy the company of people who are funny, but Knowing how to make people laugh comes naturally for some people and some people dont have this kind of skills. It is a natural capability of one person. But if you really want to pursue you need to give it a time. Read some jokes and try to memorize it and when you are with your friends utter it in a more natural way try to fit the joke with the situation but just be careful to some jokes and Pay attention because the joke may be offensive.

I'm not a funny person either just wanted to give some advice.

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FCGame- Yeah I totally get that, I like to think of myself as a humorous person. But very little of what I do to make people laugh is verbal. You can make people laugh just by pulling the right face at the right time, by reacting in a way that makes people think.

I didn't know this when I was young, I wasn't born with this. I learnt it because I was lucky enough to know funny people. Almost everything is learnt, everybody needs to know that. Its not that daniel456 isn't funny period, its just that he isn't funny right now but he will get there

p.s FCGame I just checked your youtube channel and that inspirational video makes me feel like I can do anything! Nice one

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Winston Churchil has some of the most memorable and funny quotes of all time.
He didn't come up with them on the spot. Because he had a massive stutter and was so afraid of not being able to get out what he wanted to say he used to plan what he would say for every occasion that could come up.
Obviously this isn't hugely practical but you come spend some time thinking of things that are likely to come up in convosations and have pre-prepared jokes related to them. Its hard not to come off canned or practice but with effort you should be able to pull it off.
Also just watch a lot more comedy, you will pick it up eventually

See that link down there in my signature? The one that says 'How to be Funny' beside it? Check that out.

Your boy,
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So far I have seen a lot of useful advice. I am quite aware that I shouldn't change who I am or how I act because that always leads to disaster(well in most cases.)

However, I've grown to be a person who jokes around and at times gets it right. You could say that I am trying to be funny, however what the point in changing it. I started trying around the 6th grade or so and basically has become a part of my personality. In that time I have learned quite a bit. However, I am missing something so that's why I'm here.

I'm the kind of person who talks to the nervous or shy people. I have success most of the time making friends but I kinda wanna be funny because it eases the tension and air much easier. I mean it's satisfying to know that you're not invisible and that you are actually noticed. (Experienced that before, became more outgoing cause of it). So that's why I do the things I do.


As for what pumpington, FCgame, RedHoTChilliPeppers said, I completely understand. Being funny is not necessary and things said may offend others. You can bet I will keep that in mind. I think one of my best traits though is I tend not to make others the center of my joke. It's not cool. One thing I like to do is give people a wtf face. It doesn't hurt anybody and it's is funny to imagine to the thoughts going through their head. Or other times, I pretend to misunderstand a something and say something else.

Haha, oops my whole life story. Well, thanks for the advice, I'll definitely hit up those links for sure. I gotta make sure to improve myself, dont worry I won't become something I'm not, otherwise I wouldn't call myself confident.

You do not have to be funny, if your character is not someone who is generally funny and you force humour a girl will sense it and typically mark u as fake.

Just be your better self as they would say. You need to show your greater qualities if being a stand up comic isnt one of them why are you trying to force it to happen?

In your opening phse you might just want to add a slight humorous comment, just be witty and use a situational joke, that is all really.

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Hey!
that is the key, to make her laugh without acting like a clown which is that most guys do.
Thank you for the comment about the video, I want to inspire guys as well, I want to prove them that this goes beyond seducing or picking up women... etc this is something that can really change your life.

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This is crazy. Lots of good advice here for how to improve how funny you are, but missing the point entirely on why. The ONLY thing you gotta be doing is be self-amused. Focus on "what kinda stuff gives me a laugh?"

I'm not telling you to go in there laughing your ass off, I'm just saying that you should be having your own fun. Ever see some dude say the worst jokes but everyone's still laughing? It's because he's having fun - it's contagious.

First of all, don't apologize for writing the wrong forum.

Whenever you try to be funny, you never are. Conversely, you often say your funniest things when you're not trying to be funny.

Being funny is all about context. You can't think about what you were going to say, because by the time you finish thinking about it, the moment of opportunity is over.

Keep in mind, too, that women have diverse senses of humor. There are some women that I've met that have laughed at every single thing I've set. There are other women that are harder than cracking stone to get them to laugh. So if you don't make a woman laugh, don't take it personally. Just relax, have fun, do your thing.

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Thanks, lots of great advice. I am still not sure what exactly what I will do from now on but I'll go ahead and try different things, see what works and what doesn't.