People say that building an attractive lifestyle will lead to more success with women and I agree with this. I do however feel that I'm underachieving to an extent because I do feel that I have an attractive lifestyle already.

I travel a lot, I have a good job, have a great family, can speak 2 foreign languages, work out at the gym, wear nice clothes, have a cool apartment, love reading books, play the piano, get passes to music festivals and also do volunteering work. I mean that's a serious amount IMO

When a girl gets to really know me and my lifestyle this works a treat. In fact they've been pretty blown away but these have only been where I've been lucky and girls that have got to really know me. But how do I convey to girls that don't know me (e.g. girls I meet at work or through friends) that not only am I a nice dude but that I have a great lifestyle?

I'm naturally not one of these people that likes to talk about myself. I come from a well-off background and because of the area I grew up in I was always taught to be low-key.

The upshot of this is that I'm not a show-off but the down-shot of this is that despite being a confident guy I don't "exude the aura" of having a bloody good lifestyle.

How can I show that I have a good lifestyle without resorting to being a show-off?

To be honest, I don't think you need to start showing it off more. I always worked on making my lifestyle more "attractive" mostly for me. If you're out doing something, then you feel a million times better about yourself than if you're sat on your backside watching TV. That confidence helps people loads.

I think you need to be careful that it's not just your lifestyle that people are interested in, and not you. The most boring, dull person in the world can do pretty much all of those things you mentioned - but after a week of being with them you'd probably get bored of them (not saying you're boring and dull by the way, just an example).

Look at why more people don't get to know you better? Why don't they get to find out about your lifestyle? Narrow the reasons for that down, and work on that. Your lifestyle is one of those things, in my opinion, that is supplementary and CAN help but isn't the be all and end all. It can help to bring confidence around, it can be a useful tool to attract women as well. But if the rest isn't right, it won't matter.

I think the best way to do this is being comfortable in your skin and being well socially calibrated. Being confident but humble at the same time.

Having a quality lifestyle is great, but great for you. Girl has to earn the right to get to know that part of you. Bringing stuff about your lifestyle too early, no matter how great they are, comes across as bragging which is the biggest turnoff for a girl.

Just be light and playful, and don't reveal much. I know you are temped, and it is only logical that mentioning cool things would help you, but unless she asks don't mention how cool you are. Let her see that for herself.

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