Brief situation.

I'm 25 years old, i was a shy, not social kid, until i was 16. I then moved to a different school, and met a bunch of new friends. 2 years where great, lots of fun good friends, parties. My whole friendcrew then got into drugs. Party drugs (cocaine, xtc, weed,...) I am an open minded guy, so i joined in. This lasted for about a year, then i re-considered my life and stopped doing drugs. My friends didn't, they still use drugs untill this day.

Now the problem that comes from this, i'm not on the same level as them anymore... They party untill 2 pm in the afternoon, while i'm tired at 5 am. It puts me outside of the group. Since most talk is even about drugs. Should i just ditch them, and find new friends? Is there a way to coop with this?

I got a lovely gf, who has lots of female friends. If she says she wants to do something with the girls, i'm mostly not feeling going to my friends, cause i know it will be based around drugs.

I tought, i'll stick trough, things will change, but 5 yrs later things are the same...

anyone got some usefull advice for me? thanks!

I'd rather completely disassociate myself from drug addicts and be a complete loner, but odds are you can probably make great new friends if you pick up a new hobby or interest or do some volunteer work. Work is another option but not as great because of the politics involved in a lot of jobs.

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yeah, probably. Not as simple as it's said, to disassociate yourself. Also, the memories remain with these people. It's hard to just put that aside, on the other hand, i'm not gaining what i want to gain from friends.

My friend started going out with this life life girl. Her and her mom do drugs (e, cocaine, K) all night. They life off assistance like wellfare. My friend comes from money and instead of inspiring her, he got into drugs, and drinking heavily. I needed to get away. She is now really fat and they broke up but, it was a bad scene. Anthony Robbins and many other gurus point an importance on who you associate with. Make new friends, find wings here, change your life. I had bad experiences with wings. I helped him out a lot but he is a mess so we rarely talk or hang anymore.

I agree with Fly_Swatter, try gradually finding some new friends and begin hanging out with. I was in a similar situation. Lot's friends in high school and some of them came to the same college I went to. We all started partying a lot, but they became pot heads and it was difficult to hang out with them without smoking or talking about drugs. I got lucky because after college we all moved away. It's tough because they're your friends but that doesn't mean you can't have another group or friends. Try what Fly_Swatter said and look for a club to join or something where you can meet people.

Since when is weed a party drug? o.O

Surround yourself with positive people who ADD VALUE to your life. I cant stress this enough.

Otherwise you will never move forward.

You need friends who make you a better person.

Unfortunately, if your friends don't do this and you find they are bringing you down, you have to let them go. It will be hard at first but better for you in the long run.

Good luck.

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I agree completely.

As you grow as a person, you will find that sometimes the friends you have are no longer congruent with who you are and the life you want to live. It is necessary to remove people from your life who hold you back from being who you want to be, or who will only bring trouble into your life.

I've been in similar situations with friends who were into heavy drugs, and I can tell you from experience, that eventually they will be busted by the police and arrested. If you are with them at that time, even if you aren't doing drugs, don't even know they have drugs on them, in the house, in the car, etc. YOU will still be arrested and charged as well. You do not want that to happen to you.
I have a friend who just about 3 months ago was in a car with another friend who had cocaine on him. The first friend had no knowledge of the cocaine at all and didn't do any drugs. But, they got pulled over by the police, and BOTH of them were arrested for possession. He has had his license suspended and is still in the middle of an on-going court process and facing jail time.

Another close friend of mine was riding in a car with a friend of his. His friend had to "make a quick stop." That quick stop was to sell weed. Turned out the guy he sold it to was an undercover cop, and my friend was arrested and served jail time simply for being with him at the time.

Some people are just anchors or leeches, on a downward spiral. They will only drag you down with them. It sounds like the friends you have are those kind of people. Get rid of them before it's too late.