Hey, some questions about conducting my lifestyle to increase banging without becoming a heartless machine.

Not interested in a relationship. Don't get that many opportunities for nightgame ONSs (which are preferable). But I have a nice guy streak and hate the idea of misleading someone. So I don't capitalise on daygame opportunities. I'm holding myself back through fear of hurting people, but without that fear I think this lifestyle is relatively achievable.

1)

Would I have the most fun getting multiple friends with benefits (an effort to set up and maintain)? Or should I just become a serial dater (which is far more emotional, right?)?

2)

Say I got someone's number during daygame, is there a way of getting a day 2 ONS without having it lead onto expectations of a relationship? I've had an FWB and I get how that works. Would this work the same way but you frame it so you both know it won't lead to anything more than a night or two?

My sticking point is:

What's in it for them if I seduce them, have my way with them and then take the nearest exit.

I'd feel guilty about misleading someone just to have a bit of fun for one night, whereas with an FWB I'm in it for the friendship as well as the sex. And with a nightgame ONS alcohol is involved, things happen fast and the expectations of a relationship are already low so it's not such a bother. So how do I remove this guilty feeling?

Basically, I want them to think "he was nice, shame it couldn't go further". So that we're on good terms if I ever want to contact them again.

And not "that fucking asshole, I hate him" or, crying, "I can't believe I let him do that to me I'm such an idiot. I'm never talking to him again".

If you don't feel comfortable having one night stands then just don't have one night stands. Call her the next day if you end up sleeping with her and invite her for coffee or whatever. You can maintain a friendly relationship and just say you aren't looking for anything serious right now. Also, a day 2 doesn't have to carry the connotation of starting a relationship unless you actually intend to start a relationship.

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Edit:
Oh I see what you mean. I'm just trying to figure out how to frame it so that I don't come across as a jerk afterwards and that could be one way of doing it.

Posting here has helped me figure out the problem, maybe someone could push me further in the right direction? The routine that feels most natural for me to execute goes like this: day number close, day 2 fclose.

Or is getting a day 2 just to fclose and leave still a bad idea?

Cheers

edit #2:
maybe this should be moved to the inner game thread

It's really all about what you think. If you think it's a bad idea then it is. If you don't then it isn't.

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"Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?"- Mia Wallace

If you search my user name, you'll hear my story, and know the dark place I've been through, endured, and over came. I had a little gf after Jeffy free tour 8months afterward. Two weeks before Christmas, she informed me that we are moving too fast, and she isn't ready. She fucked a guy that week. I came from that nice guy place but, I realize women are just as every bit as cunning or manipulative as men if not worse. There is no blank slate for everyone. Women pretend to be good girls yet, they got more then two dozen kills, some of which gang bangs or tag teamed. Your views are miss leading due to your experience and social conditioning.

I signed up for Alex free tour next month. I'll be posting a review here too. In doing so, I got a bonus video on physicality. I pulled immediately after watching it the same day. The material is simple yet, genius, easy to apply, and the natural instinct method honestly compliments any personality type. Anybody can integrate it into their lifestyle. If I had succeeded with it, anyone can. I gain nothing from this recommendation but, share what has helped me out. Despite improving, using my personality, freedom from outcome, self amusing, and the many things taught in the bonus video, the girl is nowhere to be seen. One word text messages. Sudden disinterest. Couple days going by without a message. This here is the way of cold approach. I am not emotionally invested.

Your viewing the world in a cookie cutter image in only a way disney or social conditioning can provide you but, its bound to disappointment when you realize her good girl persona is fake. The world can be cold. Someone can get in a car drunk and kill your dad and sister. Don't expect women to understand or care. It doesn't change the fact that women flake, make excuses, lie, and fuck around before pretending to put on a good girl front for a bf. You are buying into the lies. There are good girls still and you will be fooled at times. You need to be true to yourself, stop the excuses, and live in the moment.

I think what you've got to remember is that plenty of girls are in the same boat; they don't really want a relationship to get serious, they just want sex. So as long as you're not lying to them or trying to hint at a relationship to get in their pants, how would you come across as a jerk? You don't need to say "look I'm only interested in sleeping with you and then never speaking to you again", but just make it clear that you're only after fun.

Most girls don't think that they're going to marry you after one date. Yeah there are a few weirdos who might do but generally they're pretty much the same as us. Just never lie about your intentions and there's no reason to feel guilty. Don't think that all girls are poor little flowers who will be devastated that you've slept with them and then haven't started a relationship.

Since we use direct game during day during day time I don't think our intentions can be misunderstood unless you lie.

Most women don't want anything serious as well because most guys who want anything serious in the beginning will come across as needy. So make your intentions toward her clear in a subtle way.

If you don't want to want to see her again do not stop full contact. Just let her know you are busy or something so that you come off as an asshole

Good luck dude.

you're right. my thinking has been confused to the point that I assume all girls that respond to me want a relationship because I'm just so cool

Thanks alot for the responses everyone, really helped