My story is a quick one. I (a completely inexperienced dude) who hasn't spoken to girls for the first 17 years of his life (twas a religious belief of my families up until i broke it) met a girl at 19 flirted with her, had a small fling (getting to what is considered second base), and then got ditched for another dude a year later. Twas then that i got into PUA. I read The Game, and met up with another friend (girl) and she watched as i flirted with random girls for the first time! Long story short I wasn't very good at it with the random ladies.. but ironically I ended up turning this girl into a friends with benefits. I then noticed other girls who I was just friends with wanting more from me. About 4 month after I began this journey I met a girl I liked and got into a relationship with her. Now 9 month after that relationship began I broke up with her.

So why I got into PUA at the beginning was twofold I was heart broken by this girl who ditched me and I also wanted to improve my interpersonal skills. Now however I don't have too much of an interested in picking up chicks for the sake of random play. Rather in improving my skills talking to them and others. I never memorized any material, I wanted to try to become more natural at this by forcing myself to think on the spot as opposed to repeating over memorized material. And that is still what I am hoping to do now that I am continuing where I left off. I do read the forums and see the memorized material just to see and understand the psychology used.

My biggest problem stems from my back round. When I was younger I was repressed but had an ego through the roof. Now, I got a lot more confident and spontaneous in what I say from those 4 month of PUA before I got a girlfriend. A side effect of my confidence was the ability to finally express myself in ways I never had before some of those being my MASSIVE ego. When I stopped PUA I retained the spontaneity and confidence; however, over time I have become an asshole. It is this that I want to change. I see PUA as the road providing me the ability to test out my ideas and work on myself. My goals are to not be so spontaneous in what I say unless I learn to say less assholish things, and to be a lot less cocky and let me ego stop getting in the way.

I would definitely be interested in any advice and information and directions anyone can point me in!