So over the past 2-3 years i have become increasingly more confident in approaching others even before i discovered PUA.

In particular within the last few months since i have been reading more and more into the pua scene i have found that it has helped me in business in the ways in which i build rapport and relationships with customers and suppliers and being able to read how they would react to certain situations and how to control them to a certain extent.

i'm just intrigued as to how it has helped you in day to day life.

I totally agree with when someone says that it totally changes your lifestyle as it has mine.

It's made me bored. Nothing is a challenge any more, it's either a success or a learning experience.

But in all seriousness, finding all this potential for what I could be has made me uncomfortable with the cage that is my life.

I'm on a University course that takes almost 40 hours a week in lessons alone and i've done some math that shows that with all the extra reading they expect us to do (four hours for every hour in uni), we don't have time for anything else.

Combine this with a lack of job and you've got a stir-crazy fenix.

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On one hand it has made me more successful in my own career but also I have learned some things that make me somewhat more paranoid about the people I know and the people I work with.

For example, the good:
At work I am more successful because of the PUA techniques, such as knowing how to 'read' people to close the deal. How to pick up girls (obviously). And how to compose myself in a desperate situation (maintaining control of my feelings, etc.).

Now for the bad:
Since learning NLP, I almost instinctively look for indicators in people, such as if they are lying to me, etc. This has somewhat dehumanized me and I view woman more as objects now instead of a human being since I catch so many of them lying to me. My problem is that once I catch a person in a lie, I cannot over come that aspect about them and that causes me to lose interest in them, effectively not giving them a second chance. Not sure if others feel this way but then again maybe I shouldn't give a rat's ass if all I want to do is hook up. Either way, if I am looking for more of a relationship, then I am always trying to see where they might slip up somewhere. Not only do I do this when dating, I also do this at work and find that my own peers lie, and they lie alot. So my faith in them and their work is now tainted.

I guess sometimes you just can't have your cake and eat it to.

Best,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

Interesting read J-Dub.

For me it's kinda the same as most I guess.

Pro's
A more confident look, I'm more aware of who I am, what I do and why I do it.
When I speak or write I think more from the receivers perspective. How is this going to influence his/her point of view towards the topic? (Which can be a me, a job etc etc)

I've became more the centre of attention in a good way. I developed myself more and know how to understate the things I like. I'm not quoting lines often from PUA resources, no I know how to place the things I want to say.

I can tell DHV stories in a way it doesn't sound like bragging.


Cons
The biggest con I've always had was feeling insecure. And that's nothing to be ashamed of, yet it is something to be aware of and work on. When I do run game on a girl and all goes well, once I'm like ready to fuck/relationship-close I'm going to think about too much. Especially when being aware of so much more information I get doubts. The more you know, the more you can doubt stuff.

Still this fear is shrinking by the day. So thats good.


In any way, The Game brought a lot of joy and fun into my life, but not only in mine.. but in anyone I interact with (except some AMOGS hehe). And that's def the bottomline.

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