Hello people.

I'm currently having a Hanukkah vacation, that would last until next week, so I decided that`d be a fair time to improve my social skills overall, which would help me building better inner & outer game.

Anyways, I read a few articles about outer game, and I also improved my inner game a lot. That's also a major part of what i`m about to do for the rest of the vacation. The point is, once i`m back to school, I want to go on and try improving my outer game out in the field. I have a checklist for the coming week, and I need help adding...tasks into it, or fixing wrong tasks:

*Approach as many groups as I see.
*Try to stick to the topics, keeping myself from being quiet for over 10 seconds while in a multi-conversation, showing confident and mostly improve my body-language during it.
*Actually start a conversation with a group of people, where I "lead" it (not at the same time as the first task).
*Making conversations with women. Starting from "hey"/"hello" all the way to a serious conversation. Also, I want it to be organized convos, with some kind of an opener, maybe even some attraction-related tools if it's needed, just to feel I'm not acting the same way...to feel the improvement.
*From now on, I'd start coming to school early and stay after it ends, so if anyone goes to the mall or something, I'd be there. Also, using the first 3 tasks for my own good, I'd go because I was invited, not because I went with them like a weirdo. So yeah, making sure I'm being invited is both a part of the task or, alternatively, a proof I succeed doing the first 3 tasks...

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Now, part 2 of my post:
I have some nice hobbies to mention, such as practicing some kind of a Martial art, yet I never manage to figure out how and when to mention my hobbies as a DHV.
For example, I have 2 other guys in my class who practice similar things. One practices Judo, the other one practices Jiu-Jitsu or something like that.
So the Judoka always tells about it, when he gets hurt while training everyone seem to know about it the day after, and the Jiu-Jitsu guy always displays everything he studies to everyone...and they seem to be very interested.
I really don't know where to begin from, I mean that looks impossible to get people so interested at...this.

Well, sorry for the long post, thanks in advance.

In response to your second topic, I would ask the girl what her hobbies are. For example, "what do you like to do when not out and about, etc.". Keep the questions open ended...always...

If she has a hobby that you are remotely interested in or know about, that normally is the start of a good conversation. If not, then find some more hobbies or activities so you become more versed in those topics of interest.

I have a variety of hobbies but I do not let all the cats out of the sack so to speak. I always initiate with asking what her hobbies are and feed off of that.

For example, I run, play guitar, workout, snow ski, snow board, sail, travel, rock-climb, pilate, yoga, ballroom, dancing etc. If she does any one of those things, I elaborate on that but I do not tell her everything that I do.

If we go out some day, like on an nice summer day, I will just tell her to bring something to wear out on the water and then take her sailing. That really gets them all excited because its something totally unexpected. That builds up mysterious/fun aspect in you and makes them more attracted to you.

Hope that helps.

Best,

J-Dub

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