| Okay guys, this is my first post and topic in the forum. I'll start by introducing myself and telling how I am.
My name is Henrique, I'm 16 years old, and I live in Brazil.
I am an AFC still, though I know good part of the PUA seduction theory... I just don't have friends to help me work out and practice.
I am not a natural but I have something that I oftenly do when I see a girl... I like to say that it could be called a natural feature.
I subtly mantain intense eye contact with a girl when she notices I am staring at her, she looks back, and I don't take my eyes off her until she breaks it, to make sure I am being direct to her. I manage to make her give me tons of IOIs afterwards because she knows I was bold enough to do that.
This actually happened to me many times already before knowing the community. But now I know how to read IOIs and know some basic stuff. And it happened this year again in the new school I went to. She is good looking and I want to kiss her pretty bad.
Doing this might look like it is creepy to some, but I have never experienced it that way because it's so intuitive to do that with a specified girl that she is most likely to correspond with me, it actually happens to be something very sexual.
But I have a problem, I can't manage to talk very well, to express my way of thinking through words. And I still have to train my voice. Maybe because I have never kissed a girl yet... I feel it is ridiculous, since I have this boldness but still I can't manage to have the balls to talk properly or ask a girl decently.
I feel it's much more fluid to make intense eye contact with a female without uttering a word, rather than to talk to her and try to scale up to something more social... I do know how to express myself most of the time, but it's difficult to make you look powerful, bold and decided by talking. I would have to earn value and respect first to do that.
Since she knows I like her, and since I know she would kiss me if I asked her the right way, why don't I manage to get her?
I don't talk to her much... Hence I don't know if I must scale to be her friend socially to actually manage to kiss her. I can't manage to talk to her face to face without her popular, high value friends from the same class around to listen to our talk.
I have her on Facebook, and I thought the only proper way to talk to her would be from there, befriending her by talking about trivial stuff, since I am trying to be more direct, natural, I just don't feel right to try some routine on her, knowing the situation, she won't give in. since she knows my feelings. The only way out of this IMO is actually being direct and ask her to meet up at some corner in the school to snog... but is it? Even though we like each other, it doesn't mean she will kiss me since I don't have social value. And then I begin to consider the first option again.
Well, IMO all of this occurs because of the AA, along with the lack of social value I have since I am somehow quiet.
Now there is this guy who is more social than me, has a stronger bodybuild and also likes her. And she gives him IOIs as well, not that I care that much... I just wanna kiss her and end with my troubles, since she is making me crazy because she is actually the kind of girl that is my ideal type, making my school performance slightly worse. This guy is my friend and I have told him about my feelings for her. He knows how to respect, and I believe he hasn't told about it to anyone... He has strong AA as well and he's trying to approach her but he can't manage, which happens to be somehow relieving. She knows about his feelings since he has sent messages confessing to her by a cellphone, and since I am well aware, I know she sends IOIs to him... And, well, probably the entire class knows about the fact that he wants her... They will probably try to help them get together. Though they don't know about me. Only he and one more guy knows about my feelings.
I am not sure if I do care about her kissing him or not. I just want to get things done to end with this fucking undying desire. She can like anyone she wants of course. But I am somehow egocentric, even if I am acting like a complete fool.
What should I do to get her, guys? I was thinking on going to some forum to finally talk to somebody who knows which social dinamics I should apply, so here I am... Since this is the only decent place to get the info I need.
And im considering going to a teen club with some friends to try to actually erase my AA before trying to get her first... Please, I need help. Give me your suggestions and guidances.
PS:If I posted this subject in the wrong place, please let me know as well.
And... YEAH, I know... She is probably thinking she's so fucking great to have two guys wanting her so bad. She might think she can choose who she wants, when she wants.
But I believe I can actually manage to shut down my feelings if things get too roughed up, and ignore this shitty problem. But it wouldn't be so good, because this leads to frustration.
|
CHAT