Geez it's been a while since I've been here. See a lot of new faces, and some old ones. Last I posted, I said something along the lines that I probably wasn't going to come back, and the truth is, I hadn't planned to. Then one day it hit me - I owe quite a bit of my success to this community. So here I am, and hopefully what I say will help some of you out.
For those who don't know, I left more or less because I was moving on from the seduction community, and more onto finding a sustainable relationship. I've been in a few long term relationships since then, and had a wonderful time with almost all of the ladies I've dated. Recently, my girlfriend and I broke up... We both came to the conclusion that we were going separate directions and it'd be better if we saw other people. After a little recoup time, I start going on dates with prospects when I realized that the reason I had these prospects wasn't because of sarging; they came from my social network.
And I don't mean Facebook, either. I got to thinking, reverse engineering my success and easy access to a pool of candidates, and wanted to share my discoveries with you, the community who helped me out a while back.
Social networks, rather
offline social networks, are created by having a friend or a few friends, and getting to know their friends. You'll soon realize that people typically only travel in a certain circle, or clique, but often have one or two friends who are outside of their normal crew. I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this... these 'outsiders' have their own circles in which you can travel, provided you get your foot in the door.
If you have trouble making friends, know that I feel your pain. As a misanthrope, I don't like most people. Your goal really is to find someone who simply knows a few people, and trust me, the more open you let yourself become, the faster you'll make friends and acquaintances. Even if you secretly hate everyone, you can always relish in the fact that you're utilizing them for their social network to meet women. After a while though, you might find out that you actually aren't as antisocial as you thought... just a forewarning.
While having friends you hang out with does allow you to precipitate a degree of normalcy, to be preselected in the eyes of women, you need to be the leader of your group. This isn't terribly hard, but does require effort. Initiate get-togethers, host some events, but have slightly better plans than what you normally do as a group. You need to work on your conversation and social skills at the same time. You don't have to be the life of the party, but you'll know you're on the right track when you're telling a story at a party you're throwing and you realize that everyone's listening to you.
Don't think of this as you wrestling control over the group either, but more like you're sharing or even assuming the burden of leadership. Don't get upset if people don't like a particular idea, but continue to come up with new and more exciting stuff to do with your friends... just make sure that they can afford it.
Leading up to this point, you'll probably meet some chicks, which is totally fine. This shouldn't stop you from progressing, however. The goal is to be the alpha of your clique, the go-to guy, the one everyone looks to on Friday night to see what's going on.
Hell, after a while, you'll be out with your friends and can even delegate them to do some of your work
for you. For example, when you're out with your buddies, you can ask one of your female friends to go get 'that' chick and bring her over so you can talk to her. While you might be tempted to sarge this lady, and that's fine, you really want to get her integrated into your circle of friends. Make her feel accepted by a group of total strangers she gets along with, and you just made a friend for life. She'll invite
her friends out to go with you, and thus your empire grows.
The point of all of this is exposure. The more exposure you have to eligible women, the larger the pool of candidates you have for a date, girlfriend, or a fuckbuddy. The transition isn't even that hard. A simple, "Hey, we've been hanging out a while and you're pretty cool, but I want to get to know you better. I'm going to xyz tomorrow, want to come along?" works amazingly well. You have to keep in mind, girls are shy too, so even some who you wouldn't guess are interested in you might be waiting for you to ask them out.
Ok, so I kinda got long winded there, and probably talked myself into a few circles, but hopefully this gives you a new angle to look at meeting women from. If you've got questions, feel free to ask. I might not respond right away, but I'll make a point to check back.
CHAT
