I read the thread about what is Natural game and these thoughts came about. I think you guys will enjoy it(first paragraph is a repeat from that thread).

I want to apologize now for how long it is. These thoughts just came out.

Natural Game vs. Script- My Biased Showdown

Natural game is quite arguable. Some consider it this or that, but to me it is script less game. It is where you convince the girl to like You, not your Routine. It's always good to understand the process of attraction because you can help Improve Yourself to the point of becoming a beneficial mate to women, but it helps you avoid creating or following a sales routine, or selling yourself temporarily(how I feel about scripted game).

I am looking for a special person at some point, so to me scripted game is Counter Intuitive. They aren't attracted to Me, they are attracted to a Routine. Though it is proficient and works, what happens when your Script runs out? You are back to where you are now, so you Reset. A lot of good PUAs have to reset and come back to learning some Natural game. So why not cut out the middle part? If they are attracted to YOU, then you don't have to worry about running out of script or wandering off the path of your script. Make them more Attracted to You, with Natural Game this means Improving You.

If You be You then You won't have to worry about that magic moment when You run out of script or more specifically have no Script to hide behind. Scripts have you hide behind them, you have something to blame if/when you "fail", they deny Your Script not You. For all those reasons(I'm certain there is more) it's easier to go Scripted but ultimately you will have to go to Natural game at some point in any relationship(even friendships). You get Anxious and lose your Confidence because you never had any to begin with, you were Confident in Your "Mask" hidden safely behind Your Script, that even delicately deflected you being Denied, after all it is Your Script that got Denied.

A Take on Confidence

Natural Game centers around Confidence. Not Confidence in Your script, but Confidence in Yourself. In order to gain Confidence you must Improve yourself, not just for now, but for the next Now(Now being this Present and every single Present Moment).

Confidence is derived from being Happy with Yourself, not just the way you look, but where you are in Life, and where you are Going(for men the last two mean more then looks when it comes to Attraction). Much of our Confidence is derived from our Status in Society. Confidence is a derivative of how Happy we are with our Status in Society. You can be Confident and own nothing, or have everything and be an Anxious man, we don't need to look any further than the fact that Confident people are Happy with their Status or Where it is Going in Society (as a potential mate, competitor, co-worker, etc.).

Confident Alpha Men enjoy far less anxiety because of their happiness as well as vice versa. Two studies regarding stress and "Alpha" members in society(one based on baboons and the other on Humans in the UK) parallel this thought(where I got it from actually). The best Natural(the only Legendary type) I know, is exactly this, Confident due to his successes, meanwhile he has fun, and just enjoys his life. I've witnessed him fail, and witnessed him succeed, but regardless it's no sweat to him. A family member of mine enjoys similar success to him, and he is the same way. Confident and has fun, one major difference is my family member talks more about his successes, the best Natural I know doesn't. He demonstrates his confidence in body language and having fun.

Looking closer at this we gain our Confidence/Happiness/Status (it's somewhat wrong to put them all together, but it is a Guaranteed relation I want you to understand) by our Successes or Our upcoming Successes(good things are currently Happening), or more specifically how we Perceive Ourselves and our Successes amongst Society. Two questions: Are You Happy with Your Successes or Nearing Success(in anything that gives/takes confidence)? Or do You Reflect on and Fear Your failures?

The guy who is a true "Natural" has failed many times, but the difference is they remember their Successes, and in doing so have the Confidence to try again. Pessimism is a frequent characteristic of man kind, but it is in quite the abundance in the pick up society. A Great Example: We all ask what we did wrong when we come here, we never congratulate ourselves on what we did right. Why? This is something most of us should realize and change, we need to refrain from what we did "wrong", change our outlook by asking how can we improve our chances in the future. Look at it as improving your behaviors, rather then seeing faults in your behaviors.

Modify your thoughts to change to what you were successful with and how you can improve it. Every time you have a small success endorse it, don't bury it under the failure. You did great talking to that girl, now think about how you could improve yourself and your tactics in collecting a phone number next time. Celebrate those small successes, visualizing your next successes.

So Here are Some Thoughts on Starting in Natural Game:

1. What do you want? Socially, Economically, Health, Relationship wise (you are welcome to and even recommend you add to this). Write them down and describe why you want them. Describe/Imagine how great that success will feel.

2. How can you get what you want? Carefully write out what you have to do to get what you want. You may not know yet and that is fine, but this question needs to be answered. Being lost(especially in life) never gives you confidence.

3. What do you need to improve? Be brutally realistic. Are you shy? Are you arrogant? Are you dissatisfied with your weight(over/under)? Hair? Style? Sense of Humor? Anxiety? Knowledge(biggie)? Etc. List them and write down how to fix Each and Every single one.

4. What are you afraid of(anxious about)? Write it down and discredit it. Write down why the fear is irrational, Cross reference these fears with how they are inhibiting what you want. Try and LAUGH AT YOUR FEARS! If you can learn to laugh at them you will truly realize how irrational they are.

5. Write down your successes. If you talked to a girl today and she showed obvious signs of attraction, write it down. If you needed to improve an escalation (phone number to sex) include that in your improvement list and how you will fix it. Make sure to celebrate these small successes, make yourself feel good but be very careful not to inflate your ego.

6. Learn Confident Body Language and practice it everywhere, make it your habit, by consciously changing this you can eventually completely change it. Confident body language makes you feel confident. I wrote a thread on this, don't want to go over it.

7. Find time to Relax every day. Learn to Meditate or induce self-hypnosis(same thing). As I said the Alphas in society are Happy, not Anxious. This will help you be more confident/less anxious everywhere you go. I do it on my way to sleep and when I wake up. This is a very important task You should do it every day for at least 10 minutes.

8. Go over your list every day(morning preferred). When you can subtract from it do it, when you can add to it do it. The goal is to allow you to see what you want, why, how great it will feel, how to get it, and how to improve yourself. Celebrate your successes so that you can see if and when you are progressing (not just in your sex life but all of life).

9. What are you good at? I love playing pool, I'm a pretty solid player (lost only one game in a few hrs tonight). I do it as often as I can. Find out what you are good at and passionate about and do it. Do it so you can have fun. Do it so you can show your talent and try to advertise that talent(don't be arrogant but show confidence).

10. FOLLOW YOUR DIRECTIONS ON YOUR LIST. How can you get what you want? You told yourself. How can you improve yourself? You told yourself. TAKE ACTION NOW, and Remember it's ALWAYS NOW!

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