I'm new to the community but one thing I have seen is that guys here have a low self esteem and little value. People are asking for ways to demonstrate higher value. Instead of looking for other people's stories (which I'm not against) maybe you should get your own. Go out and do something besides sarge; go surfing, get a job, get a better job (on this note i know the economy is bad at least in America), go out with guys get drunk and go to jail, go horse back riding, learn a martial art (which will help with your self esteem), join the Mafia. My point don't just look for others material make your own. When you do go out and have fun and see something the next guy hasn't enjoy it, and when you do tell the story tell it with emotion and enthusiasm.

What have you done to build your value today?

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Why did you come in this section to post that? Natural game is about inner game and self improvement. Seems like this is post in the wrong section. Perhaps you should read around before posting. These guys are not about stealing stories, you'll find that in the routine section.

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This post is encouraging self improvement and building true value.


P.S. I read your Blog on body language and quite enjoyed it, do you have any other recommendations for reading on the same topic?

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I got a couple threads started.

Key to Natural Game is Body Language

Being "The Man"

Don't whether you'll enjoy them but a few people have enjoyed.

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you're right

the way to DHV is to simply be yourself.

yes its a cliche but this is exactly what natural game is all about

be your genuine self - talk and do things in a genuine way. dont do something just cos everyone else is doing it

build your identity - whats important to you and what isn't and how you want to live. be real with yourself and the DHV is there naturally.

I'm not really saying "be yourself". I mean go out and do shit cause chicks dig it not because you want to do it. Im sure not everyone wants to risk getting hurt learning a new dangerous sport but hell chicks dig it.

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you shouldnt do these things just because "chicks dig it"

you should do it because you genuinely want to do it - thats what I mean by being yourself

Let me correct a little bit... Be your BESTSELF!, this one is essential.


I liked the idea of getting to jail, lol.

I wrote about this in another thread, but long story short: DHV and inner game is about being a high social status man.

And when I say being one, what I mean is that your subconscious has categorized you as either low, medium or high social status, and it broadcasts this to others. It's a very strong instinct that all people have, and it's impossible to not broadcast these signals. What you need to do is to trick your subconscious into thinking that you are high social status, ie a leader who is looked up to by others, so that it will broadcast that message to other people. This is what we mean when we talk about inner game.

How do you do this? By acting like you are high social status, not just with women, but in *all* social interactions. Fake it until you make it essentially, but the difference is that you aren't trying to trick others into thinking you are an Alpha Male. You're trying to trick your own subconscious into thinking you are an Alpha Male. Having others treat you as one is just an easy shortcut to doing this.

Brad Pitt was by all accounts not very successful with women when he first started his career. But years of being a star, and having big executives defer to his judgement, has taught his subconscious that he is the Alpha Male. Watch Fight Club: he is a total AMOG in that movie, and I bet he didn't even have to try to act Alpha. It's just what his brain does nowadays.

No canada thats not at all wat im talking about. Wat im trying to say is dont just try and trick yourself into thinking your cool. go do cool stuff is what im saying. and as far as doing things that you enjoy go, well playing WoW and D&D may lead to great stories to tell your friends but a chick you meet in the club doesnt give a rats ass weather you got lvl 85 2 days after cata came out. Yes fake it till you make it is all fine and dandy but i think the key part is "till you make it" so go out there and make it guys...... a good jail story can be quite useful in any good arsenal of stories mostly when you have a taste for alternative chicks that may have their own jail stories.

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were all going out and doing things just cause chicks dig it. we wear the clothes we wear because chicks dig it. we go out and act confident because chicks dig it everything in this forum was put here because chicks dig it thats the point of pick up. go out and do something you may be uncomfortable doing just cause chicks dig it.

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Yeah, you're absolutely right, we're coming at the same problem from different sides though. I fixed the interesting stuff first, got a great job, travelled, got cool hobbies, read a lot, etc. but I still wasn't getting girls because I hadn't fixed the perceived social status thing. Any time I talked about all the cool stuff I did it just came across as DLVing because I was still broadcasting low social status.

Meanwhile, I've met plenty of people who never do anything interesting and live in their basement smoking pot all day, but because they broadcast high social status so effectively they still get chicks. The girls just think they have some hot misunderstood bad-boy thing about them.

Note to readers, do what I'm saying, and do what IOWA's saying. They're two different things, and both just as important.

I agree with the attitude of the OP. Go out. Get a life. Invite women to enjoy your adventure. Don't worry so much about Displaying High Value. BE High Value!.

Improving every other aspect of your life WILL help you with women. Who cares if you can get same night lays on the regular. It takes more work on yourself to convince a true woman of value that you're right for a long term relationship. And for the haters that will post their garb about not wanting a long term relationship for the sake of getting a word in, being relationship material adds to your attraction.

You need more than just routines and being fun for one night. Get a job. Get a better job. Work out. Make plans for the weekend WITHOUT a girl you're "gaming." You might be able to get a girl in bed with you with seduction skills alone, but if you can't support yourself, and you don't have a life other than sarging, what value do you really have?

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Now I'm with you canada. And go out and meet other guys that like to do exciting shit. guys that you very well might get arrested for hanging out with. this can only improve you game....and if it doesnt youll atleast get a good story out of it. im not saying your current friends suck but they may not be conductive to living high value. even good girls like bad boys and bad girls (my personal taste) almost always require bad boys. this advice seems kind of bad and is not intended for young children. but if your between 20-25ish causing a little trouble is a good thing

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