What is the best and soomth way to find out if a girl wants to date or just be friends?

Imet her awhile back at a bar but never hung out with her. On the top of that a month after i wrote her message on fb asking her if she would go to New York with me for the weekend for this huge birthday party i was going to. Well she never got back to me lol...DUHHH i was so stupid.

Better yet this girl is by far the most beautiefull girl i have ever talked to, super super sexy and exotic looking. She is very popular do to coors ligh beer, she belongs to coors light teem to promote bars. She is also a dancer, and she has danced for few rap stars and hung out with them. So i have a lot of competition.

I recently ran into her and I just said hi bc i felt so weird since i though she thought of me as a creeper bc of the way i asked her to go to NY with me but instead she started the conversation and in the middle of our conv she asked me for my number. The next day she invited me to bball game. Few days later she asked me to go to zumba class lol, i have mentioned to her that i almost did it one time bc it looked fun. Offcourse i went and had a good time. The next day i asked her out for lunch and we got to know each other. I think it went great, we sat there for two and half hours and just talked and laughed alot.

Im starting to really really dig her but i dont want to blow it incase she wants to just be friends. So i wanna know whats a smooth way to feel her out with out pushing her back.

Body Language.. I am not going to talk to you forever about this I have wrote an entire thread dedicated to body language, read it and you will likely have a perspective change.

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Don't jump. Take it slow. THe best is to have a no expectations mindset when you're with her. It'll make you look calm and collected and well, she won't smell your agenda i.e. sex or whatever. And one more thing, don't agree to everything she proposes to. Let her know you've got something going in your life too.

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exactly....

I was gonna say...make a move.....and then you'll know...

Women expect this....and if she is into you.....and you dont make a move....she'll lose interest....cuz she'll read all the AFC in your body language the longer you dont do shit

As mentioned, you can make a move. If you're too damned nervous about that then do this (training wheels):

Casually tell her that you think that you and her might be becoming good friends.

If she wants to be friends, she'll just be like "cool" or something similar. She won't react much...maybe a bit of surprise, but not disappointment or anxiety. If that was her view of reality, it'll be redundant to what she already feels.

If she has a strong emotional reaction, IT'S ON. Make a move a short while later and DO NOT EXPLAIN WHY YOU SAID THE FRIEND THING, JUST SMIRK IF SHE BRINGS IT UP.

There's not much ambiguity in this sort of thing. Either she has strong emotional reactions to you or you're her safe good-time buddy.

Ok...first off you are falling into the friend zone at a rapid pace with this "getting to know you" lunches etc. You are afraid to lose her and you don't even have her yet.

Think about this...if you were a complete alpha male, what would you do? You would do whatever you wanted...as in, you wouldn't worry about if SHE wanted to be friends, you would try and turn this into a sexual relationship from the get go. Being passive and seeing what she wants is not in your best interest. She wants a man who has the balls to go after what he wants, and will pass you up if you're trying to feel out what she wants.

Always assume attraction, even if it's not there. And in the worst case scenario, you try and it doesn't work out...an alpha male wouldn't give a shit because they would go out and just find another girl. I know that's what I would do...

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"Hey guys, I want a 100% rejection-proof, surefire strategy to know for sure that she's definitely into me before I make a move."

Sorry bro, no such thing.

But, guess what? It's ok because if you make a move, she'll see it as a COMPLIMENT anyway. If you don't react negatively if she rejects you, you can try 3, 4 times before you succeed. My MLTR of about 2 months told me just last night "well, u gotta reject them at least once!" So don't worry. Chances are she IS into you. But the longer you keep doing stuff together WITHOUT escalating, the more you push yourself into the friendzone.

Next time you make a plan, make it pretty obvious it's a date - you don't have to say date - but make it the two of you, involving drinks, eating and some kind of activity, at night. Towards the end of the evening, turn the conversation sexual, make seductive eye contact, slow down your words, and be touching a fair amount. Get her back to yours, and KISS. Don't worry about her turning away or anything, just keep talking and then try again later.

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