Not quite sure where this post should go, but here it is.

I have one class with a girl who is definitely into me (even though she has a bf). She is very hott, probably an HB9 or 9.5...except she is the complete opposite of my type. I'm a "good" preppy kid that comes from a middle class family with Christian background, I normally go for chicks who are the same way, or somewhere close to that. Except I idealize them and when I'm around them I panic. (different thread for a different day). This chick though, I will just call her Eve on here, is a hardcore punk rock chick with tats and piercings and gauges and nose rings and all that sh!t which is usually a major turnoff, comes from a poor lower class family of drunks...(but without that she'd be uncontrollably hot) and because I have written her off a long time ago as a potential gf I have been able to be myself around her.

I have spit some awesome game on her the last few weeks, just because its fun, and now I am almost definitely certain she has a pretty good sized crush on me, which was good at first...but now I think I may be developing feelings for her. A big no no because I definitely can't be seen with a girl like this. Last year I tried to game her a little, but I really couldn't think of anything to talk about with her, (we have absolutely nothing in common)but since I got into game I realized that you don't really have to, I just joke around with her and make her laugh at herself and kinda make fun of her (I seem to only be able to do this when I am in a good state of mind, and usually she puts me in one).

So basically my question is weather or not to pursue a relationship, and advice for getting into a good state of mind so I could spit some game whenever I feel like it, as opposed to only when it hits me, would be great.

NOT YOUR TYPE? What does that even mean? Are you a male? Does she have a female mating organ? Yup. Well than she is your type.

Tattooed up girls aren't my style either, doesn't mean I don't find them sexy. I can be incredibly turned off by their style and still turned on by them, it is all in the girl. What does religion have to do with anything? So because your ma and pa aren't the same religion means their not your same type? Just because their not your parents type doesn't mean they aren't your type, which based on your physical attraction means she is your type.

I am facing all the same conceptual issues. My Ma and Pa want a Mexican Catholic girl, I am in Utah, kind of a tall order. Finding one or the other is far more plausible(not easy) than both. Most girls annoy me and to meet my personality standards and physical standards is no easy task, than adding qualifications such as religion or race? Not going to be an easy to meet THEIR standards. Why meet their standards? This is your life my friend, and you shouldn't worry about your choice of women because of your parents. You should worry because she is your style of character or looks.

I believe you should be cool with any girl you are infatuated by, be careful not to be infatuated with a girl just because she is "scarce". This means a girl that is different and doesn't fit the mold meaning she is scarce in your environment, this makes her far more intriguing psychologically.

What her family does or did has nothing to do with her. Don't ever judge someone for their family that is unfair. I am from a family of criminals(uncles on both sides) but I am not one. In my personal experience punk rock chicks are fun and cool but can be extremely crazy(careful). I personally love punk, ska, rockabilly, and psycho-billy, so if she is as fly as you say I would probably be all for her, why shouldn't you be?

I am just not seeing a problem with her style. Don't you think you'd be an embarrassment to her friends? A preppy kid? GUARANTEE YOU WOULD BE AN EMBARRASSMENT TO A PUNK ROCK GIRL AS A PREPPY. I have hung out with punk rock girls, and as a hip hop kid I am not their style(obviously still their type). With out my ability to fit in in everywhere I would be in some serious trouble hanging out with style specific girls.

You should stop worrying about a girl's style and family and just be cool with the girl for who she is. At least she is willing to show who she is versus all the girls who paint on make up or a use a magazine style to fit a mainstream style that changes next year. Stop worrying about what your FAMILY thinks, I know it won't be easy but you need to be you. If you are doing things for your family you will never be who you want to be, that is not fair to you.

It is still taking me a while to expose myself to my parents, they know I am different. My Ma has accepted me and my Pa wants more from me. I know I will do more in life, and perhaps I have taken to much time but I know at the end of the day that I am turning out to be me. Where as your parents want you to turn out to be someone else. Be YOURSELF. It is time you step up and be yourself, this is so hard to do, but don't be who your parents want you to be or be with who your parents would accept. BE YOU and with the girl who YOU like.

Extremely sorry for the long lecture, but I think you needed to see things from a different perspective. You are worried to much about other people that have nothing to do with anything, your friends, your parents, and her family. Her style and family shouldn't have anything to do with reasons you won't date her.

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You're right man, really never thought of it like that. I should definitely not judge her by her family or style, because that's not fair to her. Whether or not I will try to make this into a relationship...I really don't know at this point. We'll just have to see how it goes. But thanks for the eye opener, there. I really didn't realize how selfish I was being.

I personally think if you are thinking about an actual relationship with this girl you had better take her family situation, friends and her "style" into consideration because they give you clues about her character. her family members could be a bunch of drug addicts or some other bullshit...you don`t wanna get caught up in that type of stuff. however, if you just wanna bang her, all that stuff doesn`t matter.