| I believe all women to an extent are vain. The evidence is all around us.
The cosmetology industry is always booming it seems like nowadays and women now more than ever are trying harder to improve their physical appearance. With breast enchantment surgery, women’s magazines teaching women how to look better, make up, clothes, hairstyles, manicures, pedicures etc.....it's obvious women care about their looks.
A common female defense is to say that “women aren’t vain, they are just dolling themselves up to meet the world’s crazy standards”. However, this is not an effective defense for 2 reasons.
First, because there are many women who don’t doll themselves up. This of course means women have the free will to do what they like and aren’t controlled by society to look perfect.
Second is because of certain female behavior. Women will dress up like Barbie dolls and go to a club only to reject any guy who notices and compliments her figure. Women want attention. Also, when a woman goes through a group of guys who she knows will be checking out her ass, but acts cold towards them whenever they say something. That same woman could have walked around them to get to her destination. Again, women want attention.
I’m aware not all women do this, but there are a surprising number that do in fact engage in this type of behavior.
Vanity and the Alpha Male
How does this apply to us? There are two main ways we can use this motivation of women to our advantage and increase our attractiveness.
The first way is to compliment women. There is a requirement though. The requirement is that the woman already be invested in you as a person and has already show the initial signs of interest. Otherwise, you’ll become either the well known friend or “player”. She will most likely avoid both of these men.
The second is to initially show interest but not sexual interest. By directing the conversation to a neutral but interesting topic, the woman’s vanity will begin to make her seek physical approval.
This is why “negging” or playing hard to get is effective in getting a woman’s initial interest. Afterwards however, as I mentioned before, it’s beneficial to you to compliment her. By knowing you are interested, you give her a reason to continue to engage you in conversation. Otherwise, she might feel you are untouchable and is someone she will never get. The “chase” is effective, but only for a short time.
That is one of the drawbacks of indirect game. Men sometimes don’t know how to go from indirect to showing interest in an alpha way. By letting her show you initial signs of attraction before you even approach her, it is acceptable to give her a compliment without turning her off and judging you to be “just another guy”.
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