| “Naturals” and other men who are usually successful with ladies that aren’t in the community know the secret to attracting women. Some of them know this consciously and others don’t. However they all use this secret in order to achieve success with women.
The secret to attracting women is to let the women choose you.
Most guys who are unsuccessful with women waste their time on women who do not want them. A woman will judge whether or not she wants to meet you, much less sleep with you within a few seconds to few minutes of seeing you.
Does this mean cold approaching women doesn’t work? Of course not! After all, skilled PUAs can cold approach a woman sending him no signals, but with tight game can manage to close her.
However this type of approach usually never develops into healthy and quality relationships. Here’s why...
When a man notices a woman he is thinking nowhere past the bedroom. He notices everything physically attracted to her and is only thinking about sex.
When a woman notices a man she is interested in, she starts looking at how he holds himself, how good of a father figure he might be, if he would ever cheat on her, if he’s got a “player” vibe to him, if he seems submissive through his body language, if she could introduce him to her parents eventually etc...... basically a woman is thinking beyond the bedroom.
Who should make the choice for a healthy relationship?
Now this of course doesn’t apply to one night stands. Some women may be looking for one night stands, if that is the case, all the man has to do is look good and turn her on. Otherwise, it’s not so simple.
A skilled PUA with tight game can cold approach and have sex with many women. How many of these women turn into long term relationships?
Of course, many men aren’t looking for relationships, they just want sex. If that is the case, then PUA material could definitely achieve that (good finances and body would help too). However, I believe many men sincerely want a long term relationship, even to find “the one”. If that is the case, my opinion is that men should stop cold approaching any woman, and only approach women giving him initial signals.
This may sound basic, but it’s amazing how many guys approach women who clearly through her body language does not want to be approached. When they fail, they think it’s because of their game and how they messed up a certain aspect of it. This is not always the case.
Maybe she’s on her period and isn’t feeling well, maybe she just got over a divorce, maybe she is a lesbian, it could be so many things that I don’t think men take into account.
I’ve now devoted my entire “game” specifically to women who give me strong signals from the start.
Why do I do this? To save me a lot of time, money and heartache.
If there are no women who give me these signals after awhile, I know I need to develop my inner game or outer attractiveness and lifestyle. Doing this would improve my chances of receiving signals from women to be approached.
By doing this, I’ve felt a big release on not having to game or memorize so much routines etc...in order to get a girl. I also noticed that if I only stick with women who give me IOI’s to approach her, she often accepts me for who I am and don’t even have to game her. Why? Because she choose me! She selected me.
Use proximity, eye contact, body language or anything you need to in order to screen which women if any would like to be approached by you. I believe your game will become almost effortless because she will be attracted to the real you when you aren’t using routines and other PUA material.
I believe this is truly the way to long term relationships for any guy who is interested in developing them.
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