Imagine the following situation.
Tonight is a a free concert in my city, last night was another free concert in my city.
Last night I was there with my gf and my best friend.
Tonight I can't go because tommorow I have to wake up early for my university and I am very tired. My gf said that she has to wake up early too, but her university is much easier.
She said that she wants to go very much(it's the last one, there will be fireworks), and she said "Can I go with your best friend without you?".
I know that she can't cheat me, because my best friend is gay, but what if he was straight?

So how can I handle a situation like this?

If your best friend wasn't gay, you would still let her go. Note: he is your best friend he will think 1000 times before ever taking a girl from his own best friend.

So what if he wasn't your best friend, but just a friend. And he was straight aswell.
You would still let her go, you always let her go. It's not even a question, what if you said; 'No you can't go without me'

What is she gonna do? Stay home, be bored because you dont want her to go?
She wouldn't.

You don't OWN her, she is not your property, she will never be, so you don't act like she is, NEVER.

The chance of any girl cheating on her man, only increases when her man is 'trying' to control her. Only because she will act like a teenager doing things she is not 'allowed' to do.


So it comes down to this, you'll never ever try to control her freedom. NEVER. You never ever be jealous about her doing things without you.
Because you 2 have a relation and it won't change unless you start acting like a jealous controlling guy.

I don't agree with Zend at all. This is a chance for you to progress your relationship, its not whether or not you're controlling her because in the end she's making her own decisions indefinitely.

Figure out how 'you' yourself feel about the situation and talk to her about it. Whether you find yourself totally fine with it, or not wanting her to go at all, let her know that how you feel is not deciding for her but rather showing an expression of compassion. If she still wants to go she'll be less vulnerable to flirt knowing she has a boyfriend who cares so much, then again depending on her reaction and how well you carry the conversation she may just understand how you feel about being too tired for class and want to stay home with you.

Plus you could always just go to the concert with her..

I would have to agree more with ZENDELO here. It is smart advice to talk with her as CLOSTAR states. But trying to control her is showing how much of a beta male you are ALPHA_MAN. I think about it this way: if you are giving her what she wants and you are special in her eyes (she is with you right?), then why would she want to cheat. And come on he is your best friend. I dont know about you, but, straight or not, my best friend would not cheat with my girl even if she got naked and wanted it.
I am big on communication; that is why I agree with you CLOSTAR. But the way that you come up with this is very tricky. I would say that I cant believe that she is making me a lil jealous, but I would not make it into a big deal because then you are just insecure with yourself--that is so unseductive. I would just take one of my hot girl-friends with me on a date and see how she feels about it. But even then, I would not control her because that is beta-qualities that true alpha males need not do. Think about it, even if she cheats on you, the alpha male would say "her lose" and move on to someone else (a cuter one to piss her off too lol)...

Hope this helps....

Why try to be seductive? If you just let her go every time she wants she's going to wear the pants and you're going to whipped. Theres going to be times where she doesn't want you to do something you want to do, its finding a medium rather than building trust. Its like letting your kid who just got his license drive your new bmw, he's going to drive fast in it whether he crashes or not, why not just get him an old beater to crash? If he doesn't buy him something nice in the future. If you're asking questions like this its clear the relationship is new and still needs proper founding blocks.

I agree with you Zendelo. When I read everything you said made sense.
But the problem with me is, when I am in a situation like this I can't think very clear.