If you go out with the mentality of HAVING TO hook up with a girl you will not game correctly. Inner game is 80 percent. This has been my greatest lesson learned.

On nights where i'm not expecting to hook up and not really trying, I DO...
What ends up happening is that if your having an unsuccessful night with the ladies, it will put you in a bad mood. Only because your wanting too much.. You have to find your inner game first. Drink, and laugh, and enjoy yourself, until you reach that emotional/happy high in which good inner game stems off of.

So at time when your not feeling happy, and optimistic., and feeling like you need a girl to make you happy.. Here's waht you do. Don't approach immedietely, don't think too much. Have a couple of drinks with friends, dance, crack jokes and laugh until you are happy.. in the mean time, Observe the girls (but don't let them catch u staring).. ANALYZE.. look which girls are hanging out with who.. Who's talking to who.. who's looking for a guy.. who has a boyfriend (or is already there with a guy).. WItty things/remarks will come up in your mind because you won't be forcing it..

The best part of this: Girls will know taht your not going to wherever for the sole purpose of picking women. If a quality girl that would've wanted to hook up with you, sees you approaching different groups of girls left and right like a man on a mission, she'll lose attraction.

Once your more comfortable at the venue/bar your with, and feel better approaching will become easier.

You'll have a better idea of what the girls have been doing for the past hour, and so you'll have loads of situational openers that aren't cheesy..

This is sort of a spy technique.. Girls spy more than we do. They know exactly who you came with and what your doing, without even making eye contact.. They're good at it... and they'll play stupid..

yeah ... yesterday is was feeling like i was trying to approach girls , like i need to do it or something. Somehow i had a good evening ( in state ) but my night out sucked somehow, so i decided to go home otherwise i would waste time and feed into my negativity.
you have to build your own party , no matter what your enviroment dictates you, not making excuses.

you also need to realize you need to get your shit together, yesterday i realized ( again) i love life but my life isn't where i want it to be. i feel like i need to get out of this town , get a new job - just for me and only for me. Get your internal shit together before you get other people into your life.

The most important thing to do is building your party before you get into the club , and when you get in you need to approach the first girl you see - hot or not hot. if you don't you procrasternate and lose state.
1. get into state
2. get into club and approach the first girl or guy you see
3. how can i make this fun ? mindset

scripted gaming , routines etc is maybe more easier but complex , natural game and keep being in state is harder but more simple. Don't look for IOI's or girls who are approachable , if you see 2 girls chances are high, one of them is single. if you look for IOI or whatsoever external you will probably ''try''.

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Ya.. i agree.. none of teh scripted stuff works.. its not genuine.. if it does, then it was because someone's natural game was on point. if you need to pretend to care about something that you don't, "then your natural game" is off.. Thats because you neeeed to find a reason to talk to someone, and so your voice and tonality ends up sounding like someone trying to sell something..

Opinion openers work for people like Mystery because caring about stuff like that is part of their personality. Honestly, i dont care what any girl thinks about what my friend bobby is doing with his ex..

I watch and observed guys that do get girls that don't study PUA, and all they have is natural game. They all have the same things in common. They love music, dancing, drinking, joking around, and know how to party hard even when there's no girl around. That quality attracts girls. I think if someone learns how to get in the state of loving life and integrate it with a little basic PUA theory they're set, with any girl..

But in the end to party and have fun, you need to have your shit together. your right about that.. you can't be worrying about failing school, or be broke. it will scar your inner game, because in the end what is going on with our life is what defines our mood.

I disagree.

What you're saying is that your game is state-dependent. When your state is good, you naturally smile and your BL is good. You can learn to correct those things when you are in a bad state. I know guys who are extremely good and when they are having the worst days, they just put on a fake smile, assume the posture, and off they go.

Try thinking of it as learning to be a better actor. This is something that I'm working on presently.