My girlfriend recently broke up with me. This came to me as a shock and I was really hurt. It happened two weeks ago. However, yesterday my friend told me that my girlfriend broke up with me only because someone told her that I was gonna break up with HER.

This made her really paranoid so she hurried up to break up with me first. So fucking immature. And afterwards, she went around and told everybody this: "I broke up with him before he had a chance to break up with me! I WON! Yaay!!"

.... This little incident has completely killed my personal pride and manlihood. I feel worthless. So this is what I was planning on doing:

I know her weaknesses really well and I know that I have the power to take her back. So I was thinking: I talk to her and fix this problem - she takes me back. Then, I wait 2 or 3 days - and then break up with her. It won't crush her - but it will help me.
This will bring my pride back and I will finally be able to move in life. Right now - I feel worthless and I feel as a failure for allowing something like this to happen.

Share your thoughts about this.

And for fucks sake - try not to judge me too much on this. I will feel bad for the rest of my life if I leave our break-up as it is now and do nothing about it.

No it wont.
No you wont.

I've seen some of your posts and you are always helpful thats why I don't really want to say this but I'm going to anyway, because you need a reality check.

what the fuck is wrong with you?

And you call her actions immature? sure they are, but what you are planning to do is even worse. Getting back at her, lol. You wanna get back at her? Make her see how easy it was for you to move on by gaming other chicks, better looking ones, thinner ones, cuter ones, whatever. This way you both benefit (as in, you get the chicks, she doesnt get 'hurt'). What kind of pathetic relationship did the two of you have that something like this happens and that you want to be the one to break up? Your 'plan' is something a 12 year old would do, or would need to do to feel better, and I know you're not 12, so act your age man.

Chillburg.

lol Looks like a childish game to me. And if you don't want your behavior to be judged. Why are you even posting this here? Isn't this all about being judged?

Just seduce some other chicks to get over it. Eventually this will backfire to her, believe me. Be the bigger human.

Just let all of this story pass by and get a dozen of other chix, then, if someone ask you why see broke up... tell them, she's so F-ing immature.

Alright guys, I've read your replies. However, the reason I don't wanna be judged is because I seriously DON'T KNOW how childish and immature acts I'm about to perform.

How come I don't know? Because I'm blinded with rage and a broken heart. This is why I wanted you to go easy on me. If I wasn't madly in love - I would be able to slap myself out of this and see the reality. But you guys know how it is to be in love. You lose the sense of reality and start doing crazy shit.

Never done anything like this before - that is why I needed to see if my actions are based on my feelings or if it's actually a good thing to do. I can seriously not see the difference at the moment, for the reasons listed above.
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Chillburg - I appreciate that you've given me a big fat bitchslap. I will try to wake out of this crazy trance as soon as possible. I'll have to really sit down and think this through as my PUA-self, and not my oneitis-self.

The other guys - I appreciate your posts as well. Just collecting different sorts of perspectives from people to draw a final conclusion before I do something stupid.

LOOK NERD THERE ARE A BAZILLION FUCKIN WOMEN OUT THERE

WHY WOULD YOU EVEN CARE???

IN FACT WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS TRY TO GET THAT GIRL BACK ONLY FOR THE EXPERIENCE OF HAVING A THREESOME WITH HER AND ANOTHER GIRL

THAT'S THE ONLY WAY I WOULD TAKE HER BACK

SHE'S A CUNT

Ok I think I understand it a little bit. I might have done somesort things you're planning to do. Maybe not. I can't find a good example right away.

Maybe its all part of a learning process. When you go thrue with this you'll later on find out that this was not the right thing to do. So you'll never do that again.

But there is one big difference between you and other guy's who are in this learning process. You are actually realising why you're doing it and by what its caused. You made a perfect reasonable explanation in your previous post. So why the hel go thrue with it?

If you love her, why don't you get her back and keep her?
If she heard from other that you are going to break up with her soon, she did the right thing in her mind to avoid feeling worthless, you might of done the same, and I'm sure I would of done the same!
Dude, if you love her, explain to her and get her back and keep her!

i read from a book you can go fishing for a million sardines and then wait till they rot and then lay it across her front yard at night and have it spell "whore" so she can read it from her window

but in all seriousness, dont. lol

+1

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"They're playing groupie, so I'm playing rock star." (mystery)

Yes, I do love her. But she's not the girl for me. I never want her back - it's better like this. It's just the feeling of love that fucks my mind up.

Guys, the words you are writing all make sense. But the usual "just find another girl and move on" is not as easy as you make it seem. I will move on, definitely. I just feel that the only way that I can move on is to do this thing. Just get my revenge and then get the hell out of there.

I'm going to a party tomorrow, and she's gonna be there.... I just KNOW that she's gonna try and make me jealous by making out with other guys. This is what makes me so pissed that I want to do this thing.

Don't do this thing, instead, be the bigger man.

Just socialize, let her know that you are over her and that you're talking to other girls again.

I guess you're right...

I understand where you're coming from. I had a girlfriend break up with me one time and the only thing I wanted was "One more night." I got it. Goodbye.

If you really just wanna get back at her (which I do think is immature, but I understand your perspective) then get her back together with her, and then just put her on the back burner and kinda fuck around with her. Ignore her and be distant. I don't know. Do what you want dude.

I know, I know... But I just can't decide. I know my feelings for her are fucking with my brain - but I'm still trying to see this from a logical perspective.

Like I said, tomorrow's a big party and she's gonna be there. I've decided: If she tries to make me jealous at the party by fooling around with other guys - I'm executing my plan.

If not - I'll just move on.