my question to you guys is this. do i date everygirl that i get a number from? or should i let them qualify to get the date. what if i don't kiss her or anything when i meet her, but theres a chance if i take her out? what do you guys do?

I usually have the intention of dating almost every girl I number close, but for some reason or another it doesn't happen. 65 numbers and about four dates in total. Heck, I was supposed to meet up with someone recently after we texted each other, but then they mysteriously went cold and stopped replying to any messages and calls.

is that normal though?

Completely.

To be a more successful PUA in terms of N-Close ROI (Return on Investment), you need to understand your targets better and your own game.

Look for indicators that the girl is definately interested in you (attraction) and not just being polite by giving you her number. If I get the gis that the girl is not overly interested in me, then I just don't ask them for their number (sometimes that confuses them even more, but it shows that I am in control of the situation). I have even had some girls say 'Hey, do you want my number' as I am leaving...then I take it...

Avoid the girls if they appear drunk or had too much to drink. Those closes have horrible N-Close ROI. Also girls that are secure in their relationship, etc. are hard targets to N-Close period.

Girls inside a big group have horrible N-Close ROI. A girl that comes in with another girl friend has a much better N-Close ROI. Girls that come alone to a club or bar have the best N-Close ROI, at least in my experience. But then again, you have to wonder why she is by herself to begin with.

Also, try to be the last guy that she gives out her number to (meaning you may have to stay until closing time). Most girls will remember better the last person they gave their number out to than the earlier guys, especially if you two hit it off well.

But 65 N-closes and 4 dates, that is on the lower end of the N-Close ROI spectrum, at least for me...

Re-evaluate/debrief what you do when going out (eg. cloths, approach, rapport, etc.)

Good Luck,

J-Dub

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