Okay guys, haven't posted here in a while so i will share with you my views on what i feel is vital and simple way to attract women and make them want to talk to you and this thread fits perfectly in this section of the forum.

Most of my success with women was due to when I wasn't focused on getting women but instead just enjoying myself and having a laugh with my mates.

Back in my day when I didn’t know much about “GAME” before it ever became popular, I remember when I use to go out most weekends with my mates to have fun. The less I was focused on attract a girl the easier I found been able to vibe and flirt with them.

The typical guy will say to their friends, “Lads tonight I’m gonna score “, and when they go to the club and they will stand at the bar with there drinks to their chest, look at the girls and stare at the dance floor and hypnotized by it. And that’s almost every guy. The truth is most guys go out to get chicks; girls go out to have fun. Girls will say to there friends, “Tonight girls where gonna dance, we’re gonna party, its gonna be so much fun!

If you just think about it like the law of attraction, like attracts like. Girls energy is, “I’m having fun. A guys energy is “Lets go get the girls, That’s not gonna vibe! Girls are naturally attracted to guys who are having a great time; especially if it’s a rare thing cause all guys go out to get chicks, right?

Like I said most of the successes with women was when I was in top form and was feeling really good about myself, many reasons would be when I was pumping weights at the gym for several months and when I’d dress up to head out I knew I looked great, and because of that I felt great. Girls will notice the subtle things they find attractive.

And it’s not the 20” pythons that look great in my ultra tight t-shirt, no!( awe the good ole days!)It’s because I was feeling very confident (maybe a little bit arrogant) , having a laugh with my friends that got girls attention.

I think its great to have a few openers and routines memorize so your not flying blind but if you would try to think back to a time when you just having fun with your mates and girls were the ones approaching you because you were the party. You found it easy to socialize with girls, you weren’t thinking about how you were going to approach, what opener you were going to say, or how you were going to get her number.

You didn’t care cause your attention was focused in the present moment of having fun with your friends. And when the time came to talk to girls you saw you were able to have fun with her and she didn’t want to leave you.

If guys who go out to meet girls would put the majority of their energy into having a great time, doing whatever they feel like doing, whatever comes to mind, attract women would be so much easier and you game will go through the roof!

Put 80 % of your energy into having a great time, and the other 20% might be approaching cute girl you find attractive. Thing is whenever your in a fun state and could care less about talking to girls or not, makes no difference cause once girls see you having fun they will want to be around you.

For some, attraction begins long before you even approach the girl. When your not focused on getting a girls attention or focusing on what your going to say and instead your just in the bar, with your friends talking about how some funny story about what happened to some guy, whatever. As your laughing and joking about it, girls will instantly notice and you will stand out amongst all the other guys in the bar.

The point I want to make is that the majority of your focus should not be on getting girls, and the catch 22 is when your not focused on getting girls, or having a great time, girls come to you!

It’s just a natural thing that happens, your having a fun time. Your the fun guy in the bar, when this happens girls are going to love having you around, and will come across to girls as the fun guy that girls just can’t seem to get enough cause girls feed off fun energy.

By the time this happens, running game on girls feels so natural that it every little routine you’ve used in the past, doesn’t even cross your mind, cause your not trying to seek validation from her cause you really don’t give care about getting laid, cause your mind is too much in the moment of having fun and that’s what gets you laid!

Jay

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Awesome post man, I have been circling around the same ideas too, but it's cool to see them written by other guy. And it's really strange for me that all the theory, all the hours I have spend reading materials, all that time is not what separates me from an AFC. Cause PU is about having good time, and getting the girls in the process. And it seems so simple, once you understand it.

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This post is excellent, and so very true. I was married for 13 years, and have been quite nice-looking for most of that time (I got a little pudgy and bald-looking there for a few years...but corrected that after I realized it). At times when I was goofing off, having a good time, flirting with whatever women were around WITHOUT INTENTION (because I was married), that's when all the women had googly eyes focused on me. Now, that I'm single and HAVE intentions...well, the post is right. You got to go out with the intention of having fun, and if you meet a girl while you're out and end up laying her, fine...if you don't, fine. That approach has worked well for me in the past because I'm quite picky. I need to get my mindset totally back to the same it was before I got married all those years ago! One good thing I have going for me now is that I'm much less shy now than I was years ago, so that should help.

Cheers,
Gruuve

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Gotta hand it to you man! U said it right. Lately, I ve been in a strange zone, it seems the harder I keep tryin, to more I fail. The key is as you said, havin fun, vibrating a positive energy, the one and only way to differentiate yourself from all the AFC's out there who try to look tough and don't even smile. I m in Vegas, and it can be a little tough gettin 10's out here since most of them flock to guys with cash, but with a little luck and lots of laughs and good times we'll get there!

Thanks for the good eye opening words of wisdom!

I AGREE WITH EVERYONE ELSE

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You word it funny. To me, as I don't know where you're from but your point is valid! I tell girls all the time when Im out "Look I came to be a good time all by myself! I'm going to have fun with or without you. If you want to be a part of it fine, if not fine. Either way I AM going to have more fun than you!" It's practically a challenge that almost any woman will be glad to take on! You will have a hard time getting RID of girls after that! The point is not 2 be an asshole but to make it clear that while it may be nice for most guys to meet them, it IS even nicer for them to meet you becoz you're YOU! Its funny, cocky, confident, sexy, alluring, mysterious, and irresistable to women! You're like catnip and they can't get enuff! Try it and see if you can prove me wrong! Before you know it they're buying you drinks or whatever try'na figure out what makes you so different (AMOG).
They start qualifying themselves to you whether you care to hear it or not.

(Fresh realization!)
I guess, that's what all this GAME stuff is REALLY about.
Being able to identify the agreeable behavior of the opposite sex needed in order to know which women are worth hitting on because you can see it as it unfolds like the matrix! Its the difference from NEO seeing people to him seeing the codes!
WOW!! What a revelation! Its all so clear now!! I gotta go out!

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