I was just talking to my best friend Giant (I always call him that because he’s as big as a basketballer – and actually DOES basketball profesionally) yesterday. Now this guy has learned the game of meeting and dating naturally up to the point of us two walking down the street and him having met yet another woman…while I’m still figuring our where the f*ck he went! He’s been my mentor ever since he did that to me the first time, and I owe him a lot.
Anyways, we were ranting on and on about Inner Game – the right state of mind you need to have to meet and date women, your way of thinking, your beliefs and values, your perception and stuff.
Because for a natural, someone who’s naturally good at meeting and dating women, MOST of what he does is so ingrained, so CARVED into his very blueprint that he (or she) hardly realizes that he’s doing it or thinking it.
I can still remember two KEY insights of thinking we stumbled on that helped us out BIG TIME unconsciously. Two universal truths of Inner Game if you will..and I’d like to share them with you just to see if others will benefit from them as much as WE have.
The universe is a reflection of you
If you approach the world filled with anger towards women out of frustration, negativity about your being and your abilities and negativity in general…it will radiate onto the world and give it back to you, after which you feel justified for having even MORE negative thoughts which ends up in you going through a downward spiral all the way up to depression, or worse. To clarify: if you’re friendly to a stranger, smile at them and are generally positive…what happens? You’ll have a new friend who will smile at YOU, who is friendly to you, etc. ALL things in the universe respond in similar fashion.
If the universe is you, STOP blaming the universe for things and instead look for solutions! Instead of complaining about how the universe always gives you rain and fucks up your perfectly dry clothes, look for ways (SOLUTIONS) to keep yourself as dry as possible.: an umbrella. The bigger picture: take RESPONSIBILITY for everything, absolutely everything…because responsibility is control, and control is power, which is GOOD..it gives you WAY more control over the outcome of events.
If you are the universe, YOU set the boundaries…meaning YOU define how far you can go and how and what you can do. In other words: YOU define your LIMITING BELIEFS yourself, which is why everytime you say not possible, I’m too … (young/old/inexperienced/scared/ugly/fat/short/skinny) and NO to yourself, you say YES: all is possible, all is doable and all is desirable. Anything the mind can conceive, it can believe and achieve my friend. Killing your limiting beliefs is the biggest part of Inner Game. Because BELIEVING you can’t do something is different from physically not being able, and even crippled people get women so that’s an excuse too!
So start living WITHOUT holding back, boundaries…uhm, do they exist then? Be open to ALL opportunities and you’ll find you will DOUBLE the fun (and the amounts) of meeting and dating women. If you make a mistake out of enthusiasm – smile, because you still need to learn the skill but you are taking ACTION. And one more thing: problems can ALWAYS be fixed, as long as you look for solutions without dwelling on all kinds of negative emotions..they won’t help you fix things, so focus on what DOES.
Everything is game, but the game isn’t everything
You can use every object, person, thought and observation in this universe to your advantage and to get ahead in life. This means you can be picky, challenging and tease your boss to get promoted, you can be kind to a little girl and seduce her mom/bigger sister/etc. in the end because of it, you can befriend other men and women that have game and learn from them…or get introduced to cute ones through them. You can also use teddybears, roses, etc. to seduce women by being romantic or by drawing attention to yourself ( this is called peacocking, for those that don’t know). You can use thoughts to create whatever desirable reality, emotion, empowering belief and mindstate to make the most out of every situation AND you can use any and all observations to tell good stories, roleplay, open and close a conversation and to keep it going. Hell, when I see a chair I can tell the funniest story ever about what happened to me once when I sat on one (who can’t?)..so EVERYTHING can be turned into an unfair advantage my friend. This is my concept of “Total Game”: everything is game. Men, women, old men, old women, objects, emotions…doesn’t matter, because you can use EVERYTHING as feedback for learning more OR use it to seduce with, thanks to or through
However, Total Game also means that the game is NOT everything. You base seduction on your LIFE and not your life on SEDUCTION! You have friends, family, work, education, interests, ambitions and dreams too….so you shouldn’t make picking up women ALL that you do. Why? Because if seduction IS your life, this would mean that whenever you are NOT seducing women…you are thus NOT having a life, which makes you a response junkie (if you don’t get reactions from women, you are nothing = sounding pretty much like an attention whore!). And having no life is being a pathetic loser, duhh.
Also, you are NOT a Mystery puppet, a David De Angelo clone or a Juggler look-a-like…all these men teach you some of the best game out there..true, but you ARE not them! This is why you should base your seduction on your life: I for example work at a telephone company, have worked in a dozen or so callcenters and always get to train people to become phone superstars…which means it would be very NATURAL for me to be an expert of phone game, to roleplay the teacher-student thing with women a lot, and to TEACH women things.
YOU may be a club bouncer: different people, different objects, different situation…on which you need to base an entirely different style of picking up women because of the noize in the club, drunk people, the rules of your job, etc., know what I mean?
TRULY being a world-class seducer means making a KILLING with YOUR unique circumstances: shaping your situation in such a way that you can meet as much women (or the highest quality of women) as you possibly can. It’s basing seduction on your LIFE.
CHAT