It’s funny how most dating advice for men…is given from a male perspective and as such includes all kinds of techniques that were discovered by men looking at female psychology from an unique point of view (the guy’s own view). Don’t get me wrong here: creating attraction by teasing, challenging, being the prize etc. works. So funny how? Because the general public seems to forget that you can use HUMAN psychology too!
Because you can easily seduce someone by tailoring to their repressed or secret fantasies: once you know what a woman likes, what she fantasizes about..it's easy to capitalize on it because if you TAILOR your style of clothing and behavior to her fantasy, she'll ASSOCIATE all kinds of positive feelings, desires with you..BEFORE you even touch her.
You’ll be a fantasy that came alive, and since fantasies are someone’s imaginations of what, where, how or even when they would LIKE to be (a dream that’s worth chasing)? All of a sudden, you present them with an opportunity to actually GO there. Off course she’ll desire your presence then, she’ll desire to be around YOU…because you’re the only one that holds the key to her fantasies.
Let me give you some clear, PROVEN examples of how to do it, because it’s easier then it sounds….
My current girlfriend absolutely LOVES gangster movies, Italy, crime novels, suits...so whenever I'm ready to go on a date again? I put on my dark blue suit, polished Italian shoes, a satin tie and do my hear like a slick mobster would do it..why?
In doing so, I cater to her fantasy - the badboy, super masculine Italian gangster who takes what he wants, has his hustles, makes offers people can't refuse..JUST like in the movies, and in her fantasy..
My previous girlfriend was CRAZY about all things latin - the dances, the language, the food..so whenever we would go on a date? I made a point of speaking all the Spanish I knew, giving her affectionate latin nicknames such as mami and bonita..I would play reggaeton and latin everytime she entered my home, I made paella and tacos for us..all to cater to her fantasy.
They ate out of my hand, sucked up every word I said and tried to do anything in their power to please me..without me EVER asking for it and relaxing and enjoying life more than ever. Because I simply fed their fantasies, and they loved it too.
So how do you find out what a woman’s fantasies and dreams are? Ask her what her passions are, what she likes, what she would like to be some day, what she WANTED to be as a young girl, etc. and look for similarities. You should look for the shattered dreams and secret fantasies department in her (if you have to, just openly ask it: “what’s the thing you most regret NOT doing up until now?” Those kinds of questions). Once you’ve found them, it’s time to cater your “game” to her fantasies so you can seduce her as fast as possible and as easy as possible. And catering is about more then just changing the things you say: it’s what you say, what you do with her, what you show her, or you dress up for a date with her, what you do for her, etc.
Sounds complicated huh? Let me show you some of the ways you can do your “catering” to clear things up for you:
- - She loves movies, actors, the video store, Hollywood > a would-be actress > she’ll love roleplaying (for example: you’re sick and she’s the nurse), going to sneak previews of new movies, do an acting class with her, get her some part in some theatre play, let her tell in which movies she would have liked to play (and tease her that she would suck), etc.
- She loves to go out, did some streedance, watches dance movies, listens to music all day > a would-be dancer > she’ll love to learn some new dance with you (dancing lessons), she’ll love to go out clubbing, she’ll love to dance FOR you, watch dance movies, let her perform as an “official dancer” on some friend’s birthday, etc.
As you can see, you can do a LOT with someone’s fantasies (and yes, she could have more than one): let her LIVE OUT that fantasy by letting her have her “15 minutes of fame” with her passion (the performance at the birthday, the acting class, etc.), tailor to it yourself by dressing, talking, behaving in a way that suggests you’re part of it…and it’s only a matter of time before she’ll be seduced. I call this my “fantasy frame”, because it determines how YOU frame all your words, actions, appearances and so on around her to build attraction.
It’s just like playing a game on a Xbox360 or whatever..that adapts the difficulty of all the levels to your skills (it senses what you need and what’s too high for you, so it seduces you to play as long as possible)…only now YOU are the game and she’s just entered level 1 of the game of seduction..
Quite simply, you can seduce a hot woman MUCH faster and stronger by catering your game to her, then by doing what’s universally attractive (being challenging, being mysterious, etc.). Why? Because every human being has other needs, wants and fantasies..everyone is UNIQUE. And just like this guy wants food as a reward for winning something and that guy wants money, women A doesn’t necessarily need what women B needs too..
Imagine what you could do if you COMBINE it with challenging, teasing, selectiveness and so on…and another funny thing is: this one isn’t new, Casanova, Cleopatra and other infamous seducers did the very same thing for years and years..
CHAT
