I play a very natural game, I never used canned stuff, and there are alot of times when I'm bursting with energy, talking to total strangers, mesmerizing people with my wit and charm, and really loving life. I have a girlfriend, and I don't actively sarge, but I do alot of volunteer stuff where I get into conversations with people on the street (at my college). The girls in the volunteer club love me, and tons of them have crushes on me, or at least barrage me with IOIs. I love being that person.

Other times, I act quiet, shy and unsure of myself. I get nervous, I can't thinl of things to say, let alone clever things to say, and people treat me like furniture. When I try to talk I get shut down or ignored, and what's really bothering me is that I've been unable to figure out why or how to change this inconsistency in my personality for quite some time.

Does anyone else have any advice or have faced this similar situation and overcome it? How can I be my alpha, outgoing, crazy fun loving self all the time?

I was in the same boat as you until very recently. Some of my friends and family couldn't believe I was studying all this pickup stuff, because the guy they knew sometimes would do extremely well socially. What they didn't know is that my success was largely due of my proximity to them, and that I had far less consistency when I was away from certain people and situations. I was often very shy around others, especially outside my social circles.

The feeling that you have when you're having an "on" night is called being "in state". Tyler talks about it at length in the RSD Blueprint Decoded DVDs.

The ability to get into state easily mostly has to do with your belief systems, along with a willingness and desire to have fun regardless of peoples' reactions.

Everyone is addicted to being in state. In fact, part of the reason why humans make and gather with friends is because we know we can get into state easier around them. People will literally chase people and locations where they know they can get into state easier. Its called situational confidence. Alcoholics do the same thing; they don't trust their ability to get into state on their own, so they rely on alcohol to help them.

I can't always get into state when I want to, but I am FAR more consistent than I used to be. The main things that helped me were learning to self-validate and not rely on the validation of others, and to abandon outcomes for the evening and instead focus on just having a good time.

However, there is a trap you can run into with this. If you're not in state, it is possible to block yourself out of ever getting into state simply by consciously trying too hard to reach it. Here's the only solution: if you ever see a set you want to approach or interact with, and you're not in state, you just engage them anyway and hope you will get into state later. Two words to tell yourself: GO ANYWAY. Don't spend a minute thinking about you not being in state, you'll only make it harder.

I know this was a lot. I hope it proves helpful.