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What's up gentlemen. This girl is giving me MASSIVE shit tests, on a continuous basis. I took her out for drinks once, but didn't close. Now every time I see her around work, she throws me a shit test. It's even risen to the point where she posted a shit test in response to one of my fb posts LOL
For example: "you should never wear that shirt anymore!" Of course, I smiled, said it's my favorite shirt, and made sure to wear it again 2 days later.
So obviously the credited responses to shit tests are: (1) remain unreactive, plough through as if she didn't say anything or you didn't hear her; or (2) come back with a witty remark that's either funny or challenges her.
I have been doing this every time, but she keeps throwing shit tests at me like a chimp throwing its fucking feces. She's still interested, girls don't shit test the bum on the subway because he's lower value. right now I'm unsure whether I should (1) remain unreactive; or (2) plough through the shit test and try to escalate.
You need to understand tests to begin with.
Women do not test for fun. There's a very real purpose to it. And as long as you see things as some kind of weird mathematical equation in which if A happens, then do B, or C, then you will miss the mark completely.
Case in point: "Women don't test hobos because they are lower value". ???
Lower value than who, you? Are you better than other human beings? Because the only thing you seem to have an abundance of is ego. She said she didn't like your shirt, so your response was to
"make sure" to wear it 2 days later? And that's called... what? Being unreactive?
Women test because they need to feel something from you. They need to feel your edge. They need to
feel (read: NOT SEE, this is not something you can show, which is what you've been doing).
Understand: she will not stop testing. No woman ever will. And as you grow in success (again, I'm talking about something real here - as you grow as a man on your path and purpose, not as a snobby douche bag playboy) so will her testing.
Women come to understand their femininity through testing you, through feeling your masculinity. You cannot hide from these tests, nor can you find a way to avoid them. If you clench up and retreat into your head, you've lost. If you react and 'give in', you've lost.
Why? Because she wants to feel your
loving strength. That's the key word here, love. It's the easiest way to bypass all of this, it's the best "shit test destroyer" or whatever. If you try to conceptualize this into PUA dogma, you will miss the point and keep fucking up, forever. But if you understand it truly, then no woman will ever confuse you or catch you off guard.
What is your loving strength? It's the mixture of childlike wonder and the indomitable spirit of a warrior. It's the balance between a man who is playful, fun, loves life, loves himself and loves women, mixed with a man who is on a mission greater than himself, who is trekking through the jungle and running to the sea. It is this unshakable strength that a man gains
when he matures and comes to know himself and his purpose.
You wanna pass shit tests? Stop trying to pass shit tests.
Look her deep in the eyes, smile, breathe deep and let her feel your presence. Let her feel that you are truly there, with her, unafraid. She wants to feel that off you...
She needs to feel that off you.
With love and respect
Mack
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