So... I used to be the worlds most withdrawn, depressed, socially anxious person ever. Then I found pua. I devoted myself to it. I would absorb as much rsd material as I could in the day, I've gone out almost every day for months. I'm a genius, and gentlemen, I've nailed it... Too well.

Dudes call me fuck'n awesome 10 times a night. I meet tons of people, I'm highly visible, the ease with which I take up space, approach, dance... I never knew anyone could be like this, much less myself. My body language, posture, fluidity of motion are unmatched by anyone I've seen since I started this.

HBs orbit in groups, popping their eyes, staring, giggling. When I scan the room I watch a dozen pretty faces snap out of a trance and look away like a wave as my head turns. If I spin around I see girls in rows who look like dear in headlights. But if it looks like I'm about to talk to them, they flutter off only to stare from afar and orbit again later. Last night a whole group of younger HBs did this all night and as two left one gave me a doe-eyed stare and spoke loudly to the other, "I love him." But we never spoke.

Basically, at first I though girls didn't like me. Now experience tells me that they are shy because everyone WILL notice. As puas we have to get over it, but they are used to things being the other way around.

Seriously guys, last night I wanted to pour my beer down my front so I looked more chodie and they'd talk to me more. It turn out that I was always naturally attractive, but didn't know it. So by the time my confidence caught up, I had already transformed myself into this thing that girls just can't believe exists.

Regular people don't believe this can be a problem. Someone here must understand.

Heh, well we are some degree of the same, I was a complete introvert (went out <5 times in all 4 yrs of college) and I had girls come to my dorm room door and I didn't fuck them! Oh well :/

You were very vague about everything... you didn't say how many approaches you have made. What are your actual numbers? If you have done 25 approaches and every time the girl runs away from you, well then there is a problem, and we can fix it.

Also, you didn't mention anything about conversations... I don't believe that if you have been going out that much, you haven't had a few conversations with women, esp if you are grabbing that much attention.

Also who told you you're good looking (being well groomed is more important)? Was it 1 person or 30? Who told you you look like a effin baaawss? You posted a lot of seeming self perceptions. Have you filmed yourself, then looked at the tapes or showed them to others? It looks a lot different than thinking about the situation in your head.

Don't be an Eliot Rodgers and think that women will just start approaching you to talk... you're still the man and you have to approach the women. Esp if they are hot, hot women get hit on estimates of like 10x+ per day!

Showing a little bit of vulnerability can be used as a strength for you definitely.... She would see you more of a person she can talk to and she'll let her guard down.

Also I would be more direct... ok so women try to stare at you from afar? Why not take more control of the situation and talk to her? Is she running away that fast? haha


Vulnerability can be used as a strength. If she's already attracted to you then even telling her "you had to build up some courage to talk to her" could help with the resistance.

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How do you show vulnerability that can benefit you?

You strut your stuff and act like the boss, so women are attracted to you. But you still need to approach.

The downfall of PUA is that too many guys aspire to be so attractive that they don't need to approach. You will never wade knee-deep in poontang until you can become an approach machine. You've still got approach anxiety. I still have approach anxiety. Every PUA guru in the world still has approach anxiety. The key is to push yourself and just keep approaching. Don't wait for the girls to come to you, because they won't.

Girls want you to take control of the situation. Right now, you're attracting them but you're waiting for them to make a move.

The bigger problem here is you're also getting your kicks (or your dopamine rush) from ego validation instead of sex. The goal is always sex. Compliments should not give you a hard-on.

Dude... Ive been going out 5-6 nights a week for almost a year. My number of opens is in the several thousand. If you are reading my post and not pickup on my problem, you don't have this problem. Look up rsdalexander's video on "what advanced guys know, but you don't".

People get jittery around me now, like they've been called to the principal's office. My problem isn't what I'm doing, at all. My problem is once they "pop" (that's my word for it) they just stand there, waiting to be spoken to and nonverbal IOIing like they are going wear their hair and cloth out from all the adjusting.

Remember being AFC and you just couldn't function around an HB 9-10? Well, basically I make HBs "chode out". I even joke how if our genders were reversed it would be creepy as hell. The difference is that I don't mind being stared at. Lol

I am an approach machine. Actually I have to reign it in. It would seem you don't suffer the same issue.

And to further illustrate my point for those who don't get it, I CAN just sit at the bar and just open HBs who hover. Unfortunately, the only ones who tend to talk back and stick around are seriously confident HBs, likely with bfs (no pressure on them), not too young, and had some drinks to calm down.

On a cold approach in the street, or at Starbucks, it's easy to connect. It's if they see me in a social environment surounded by people hugging me, shaking my hands, dancing in place, buying me drinks. It has been a while since I haven't gotten free beer, and I never ask.

Appoach anxiety!? I'm an adrenaline junky for the shit.

The girl who said "I love him". Why didn't you approach?

I must say well done for your transformation.

Just make sure your head and ego don't get any bigger. Your lack of humility is pushing girls away.

You're right, I don't suffer your problem... but I can help you....

After THOUSANDS of approaches, there's something wrong if you can't pull a girl. You don't see it and no one on here sees it yet. If you can't get someone to your place, stay and talk with you, kiss, etc you're making a consistent mistake. You've proven this with your numbers. All you have talked about so far is that you are great about creating social proof/approaching and small talk. That's a small portion of seduction.

You still haven't talked about things curcial for seduction ie conversation topics or kino. List the last few conversations you've had and include kino. You can talk about fucking baseball and food all day but if you don't talk about sex you're not going to get fucked!

You can be cool as fuck but if you don't touch them they won't get the hint... When was your last kiss btw??? When was your last lay?

Agree with the above poster. Your problem is you focus on 1st base (social proof / approaching) but you're too scared to escalate physically towards kissing and fucking.

My guess is you're not very experienced in the bedroom. Get good at sex and everything else will fall into place. Right now, you're getting your kicks (dopamine rushes) from girls complimenting you. I don't know about you, but I would rather put my dick in one girl's mouth than have compliments from 100 girls.

As others noted, where's penis in the vagina?

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I did, almost. Right when she said it I smiled and started to step forward. She went bug eyed, grabbed the back of the other's shirt and te two scurried away giggling, each sure to flash me eyes one last time as they rounded the corner. One smiled the other looked like a dear in the headlights.

I usually gather quite a group when I'm out, but HBs, particularly younger ones act like they've seen a unicorn.

So guys, if you don't understand my problem please stop advising me like I suffer some AFC bullshit and don't understand. You don't seem to understand. This is a very advanced problem that I face and I'm looking to hear from people who have faced it. I damn near have matrix vision, I know what is going on, I do approached all day everywhere I go, the situation is EXACTLY as I say it is, and sorry, if you don't face this issue then offering me beginners tips about AA and shit will offer me no help.

Aaaaaand you didn't SAY ANYTHING! What about "Wait where are you going??"
No one even mentioned AFC. Well this is my last post here if you keep repeating yourself. Like I said I/most others won't be able to help you when you don't actually write multiple field reports.

Until you specify your interactions detail by detail, we won't be able to help.