Hi,
Ultimately both you and I and the rest of the guys who're striving to be super successful in attracting and picking up women should strive to do everything we say and do to women that we're attracted to in a natural way - the way of expressing our true selves, our true personalities and our true feelings.
When you decide to relax and enjoy yourself around women while you're having no pressure, no tension and no intention to approach them in order to attract them or pick them up, your mind will automatically come into the state of calmness, peace and eventually confidence. I'm talking about the confidence to be your true self.
When you walk into a place full of hot women while your mind is totally relaxed and calm because you feel no pressure of having to approach any woman in order to attract her and pick her up, you'll start to feel free to express yourself exactly in the way you feel about any particular woman in there. Complimenting on a hot babe's ass or boldly approaching a couple of extremely hot women while they're with a group of four guys, for example, will most likely not seem to you like a scary task to do because you won't give a damn about what any one of these women and these guys might think of you and your approach.
Here's a quick reminder. Every legitimate top player will always tell you that what most women are primarily attracted to in you as a man are two key things:
1. Your personality
2. Your social value
The latter will probably remind you of the subject of
demonstrating high value. You might have already read a great deal of books on this matter but I'd still really like to ask you: "Do you really and truly understand what demonstrating high value is all about?"
Well, I really hope that what I'm about tell you will finally help you connect all the dots when it comes to fully understanding the area of demonstrating high value just in case you're not totally sure what it is.
In plain English,
demonstrating high value in the context of dating is nothing but demonstrating the balls and the skills to naturally attract a woman based on openly sharing your real sexual feelings and desires toward her no matter what. In other words, you're demonstrating a rare skill of confidently attracting a woman while being your true self and not being needy toward her at the same time.
Above I've mentioned the word "a rare skill" because not many men possess that skill as you know. This is why knowing this skills
But here's a question: "Are we here really talking about a skill or something much deeper than a skill?"
In a nutshell, we're talking about not only you being your true self but also you being able to unlock your best self around women.
Back to the title of this thread.
So, what do you think has initially helped you be your true self and get into the position of unleashing your best potential when meeting women that you're attracted to?
What's helped you is that little but extremely powerful and beneficial exercise of emptying your mind.
The best way you can understand where all the power and benefits of emptying your mind are coming from is by understanding the following Bruce Lee's words of wisdom:
"Truth comes when your mind and heart are purged of all sense of striving and you're no longer trying to become somebody. It is there when the mind is very quiet, listening timelessly to everything."
There's another quote of Bruce Lee that awesomely backs up the one above and says it all:
"We do not become. We simply are."
So, what kind of truth are we talking about in the context of meeting and attracting women?
The truth on how to unlock your best self when interacting with women in your everyday life, and also the truth on how to naturally ease yourself into approaching any woman that you're attracted to with almost no approach anxiety and no fears.
So, how can you ease yourself into approaching a woman?
You can ease yourself into approaching a woman by believing in two things:
a) Believe that you already are an alpha male. To remind you, an alpha male is a man who constantly has sex with many different women and who most women just want to have sex with.
TIP: If you're having a difficulty accepting to believe that you already are an alpha male, I suggest that you start practicing your
dominant body language. Why? Because of the following stuff:
"Your beliefs control your emotions, and your emotions control your body language, and the other way around."
b) Believe that the woman that you feel attracted to and that you're about to approach is already wildly attracted to you. In other words, embrace your playful mindset and playfully assume that she's there standing next to you just to passionately flirt with you and heavily hit on you because all she wants is to just have sex with you.
But there's also the third type of belief that's as equally important as the above two kinds of beliefs. And, that's your subconscious mind's belief that backs up and controls everything you say and do to women. This type of belief is extremely important because without it you won't be able to naturally attract women and unlock your best self when meeting women. Here's why.
Everytime you blindly recite a canned opener or a canned routine in front of a woman and she gets a sense that what you're saying to her doesn't really feel totally natural and fun to you, she'll be able to tell that you don't really believe that what you're saying to her is right or real to you just by looking at your body language and feeling your negative emotions coming out of your body language.
The best way you can understand how your beliefs relate to your emotions and your body language and why your body language is such a big deal to women when they first see you is by understanding the following truth that I've already shared with you earlier:
"Your beliefs control your emotions, and your emotions control your body language."
And, this is why your body language is your only real attraction tool that plays a huge role in helping you unleash your true best around meeting women once you first decide to empty your mind and learn the skill of attracting women while not being needy toward them. To remind you, the latter skill is all about demonstrating high value as explained earlier in this post. In short, this is why your body language is such a big deal to a woman before she decides whether she's attracted to you or she's not.
This is why reciting canned openers and routines is directly related to your limiting beliefs that are your worst enemy that's stopping you from being your true best with women.
The bottom line:
Always keep it real and go natural not only in the area of meeting women that you're attracted to but also in any other area of your life.
The point I wanted to make throughout this post is that once you empty your mind by letting go of all the pressure of having to approach and pick up any woman and once you act by just being your true self and openly sharing your real sexual feelings with women that truly turn you on, you'll be well on your way to discovering the truth on how simple it is to effortlessly attract a woman and
make her chase you while you're just being yourself and demonstrating high value.
Last but not least, the first essential ingredient to unlocking your best self around women is your happiness.
So, why your happiness is a must-have ingreadient to unleashing your best?
Once you go out there with no pressure of approaching and picking up women and once you understand how to demonstrate high value based on using your attraction and body language skills the right way, your happiness will be a powerful chick magnet because it will help make you come across even more attractive and even more non-needy in a very natural and effortless way.
To wrap up, the above scenario brings us to the golden secret to unleashing your best in attracting women which I like to put it this way:
“Women are attracted to a man who’s totally free and happy with his life because they can feel totally free and happy to be whatever they want to be while being around him.”
So, how exactly can you use the above secret?
It all comes down to you using the key attraction skill:
show women that you might be potentially interested in them while you're not being needy toward them at the same time.
When you link your feeling of happiness to your skill of showing women that you’re interested but not needy, women will start to subconsciously see you as an extremely attractive man who can give them the freedom and space they need in their life without you asking them for anything in return.
Women are attracted to a happy man who can give them the freedom to be whatever they want to be without putting any restrictions on them at all.
If you still need help in understanding and using the truth behind unlocking your best self in the area of naturally attracting women, I'm inviting you to share your story and ask me questions by joining my busy blog's popular discussion on
what's holding you back from unleashing your best with women and enjoying the game by clicking on this link.
Bruno
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