Hey,

so, here's the story. I met her in a bar about 5-6 weeks ago, took her home that night, no sex. We had sex next week tho. Since then we text pretty much every day. She seems really interested, it almost looks like as we're a couple. She even bought a toothbrush for me to have at her place... She calls me cute names, calls me in the night when she's drunk (sometimes even 6 times in a row), once she even came drunk to my place. And sex is amazing. I think it's safe for me to say that it is amazing for both.

Then there comes the problem... She's been in relationships for about 5-6 years (first for about 5 years, then for about 1 year; btw she's 22) and now she doesn't want to jump into a new one, she says she needs some freedom. And I understand that. And also, in 7 months I'm going abroad for 5-10 months. So these are 2 reasons she doesn't want to be commited.


I really don't know what to do...

From one point of view, I think it's kinda dangerous. I'm already in a phase when I miss her if I don't see her some time and I'm kinda jealous of other guys, because I can't trust her, she's "free". I'm kinda falling for her a bit, but I kinda think I shouldn't cause I'll get hurt.

From another point of view, I kinda like it anyway. She's cool, I like to hang with her and I really like to fuck her. So why end that?


What should I do to force myself to think of her as a fuck friend?


Feel free to ask any additional questions and thank you for replies.

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Stay cool.

If you're planning to have her as your fuck buddy, see her once a week. I've been there and I can say with all honesty that seeing her more than once per week will get you both emotionally attached to each other no matter how many chicks you sleep with.

Second thing, she's free, so are you. Go for more girls and make them your fuck buddies.

Thanks for your reply.

Also, now during the weekend I'm starting to miss her... not cool. I'm afraid of getting one-itis. I really wanna see her, but at the same time I know I shouldn't. How can I convince myself that she's just one of the girls I wanna fuck and that I don't care if she fucks whole Europe AND at the same time keeping it cool so she won't complain that I got "cold"?

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UPDATE:

Yesterday we talked and she said that there's too much of everything between and that we should "calm down" a bit. But at the same time we set up a sleep over at her place. And she's in the week of the month, so no sex either. She's given me those double signals all the time. Calls me cute names, saying I'm hers and then this shit that we hang too much. She's confused... but so am I. I feel like I should draw a line, but then again I don't want to complicate things and push her to decide. I said we should be fuck friends, but she said we can't be that, cause we are already too far...

I'm thinking about backing out....

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Stay cool.

don't "back out," let things just take their course; things are going to end up one way or another, so just let things fall as they may. You're both trying to "decide" on things that don't need a decision. You're single, so go out and meet other girls while you see her.

You also said you're leaving in a few months, so this is prefect setup.

she is hurt from previous relationships, she want relationship, but she is afraid, therefore she accept any sort of closeness with you.
she is trying to tell you, DAM dude make a decision already, since she hurt she doesn't want to decide it so she won't blame herself, help her, you need to do what YOU want.
if she say she doesn't want well you have a fuck buddy.

Never push for a relationship. Get free sex with her and other women until she tries to pin you down for a monogamous relationship. Only then should you ask yourself if you are prepared to give up your other pussies for this pussy.

The more side-pussy you have, the less you will care about the thought of another dude's fat cock in her face. Jealousy stems from a scarcity of women. The more women you have, the less jealous you will be.

^Only if she's not special, but it sounds like that's not the case right now.

On her side, it seems like she wants a relationship but is insecure/scared of one. If you can manage to make her feel safe and that going out with you won't [insert whatever her fears are] then she should give you her ok. But it all depends on what you want, so figure that out first.

No woman is special enough to treat differently (pedestal).

Re-assuring a damaged woman you won't cheat etc. will drive her away, she doesn't want that, she wants the same BS drama her ex gave her. Stop trying to be the knight in shining armour, it will dry out her vagina instantly.

Bro, by the way you're talking about her it seems as though you're going to do whatever you can to keep her.
She's not confused, only you are. She only wants to be you're fuck buddy. The more that you try to make it more, it's only going to end bad for you.
Instead treat her as your fuck buddy. Talk less, have sex when you want it. And she will miss the person she has become comfortable with.
I'm currently doing this to a hb 10 and two 9's. They started off trying to be in control. Now they call back to back or text me 6x in a row. They are on my time

Also, I forgot the **disclaimer**
Playing tough may end things. But you can't allow her to have control. Stop making excuses for her (been thru a lot, brother, dad, kid). You have to have the mind set "fuck that, you do things the way I want or this is over"

Even telling her "I did like you but Im looking for more. You're a good person, but let's just be friends" is better than allowing her to toy with you. Bc she IS on the path to hurting you

If you don't want to fall for her then start fucking other women and see her only once a week to keep the distance. And as others have said, she is not the one confused, bro. Women absolutely love casual fuck-buddy relationships.

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Obviously this one is special enough to OP. Plus, there's a big difference between the pedestal and just being treated differently.

In reality, of course I treat my main girlfriend differently from girls I'm opening in the club. But this is not the OP's girlfriend we're talking about, she is a casual fuck, so the OP should treat her the same as any other broads he is banging. That was point I was (perhaps clumsily) trying to make.

If she was his girlfriend, we wouldn't be having this conversation.

just let thigns naturally and see where it goes. Dont think too much into it

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