The reason I'm posting this is to point out something that occurred to me during a random conversation. I was just having a coffee and a random guy just started chatting to me. By the end of the chat I thought to myself that If I was a girl I probably wouldn't want this guy to leave.

Why was this?

1)It felt natural and unforced and I learned a lot about him in the space of 5 minutes.
3)He was slightly higher energy
2)He was confident in what he was saying and a good conversationalist.
3)He was entirely outcome independent.

In this day and age its easier for me to meet new women and get girlfriends then it is to make new male friends. It takes a lot more since there is no sexual tension. I would have been quite happy to make friends with this guy.

Think about what it would take a random dude to cold approach you and make friends. I bet its not a whole lot different then what we are trying to learn in PUA(besides escalation).

So really I don't think there is that much difference between men and women when it comes to this and we all innately know what it takes to be attractive since we have friends.

Anyway, that's just my thought's for the day. .

Thanks for sharing. I believe there is a lot of truth in this. I think it's exciting when someone approaches me and brings a new element into my life or situation that I hadn't planned for. I have a good friend who is a girl who would talk to a lot of strangers, and really open up. It was really amazing to watch her interactions. In the end it really seems important to recognize the other person's humanity, and not be playing games so much, I think you can really value them and yourself a lot more.

On the contrary, I had a guy chatting me up at the bar the other day, and it was definitely interesting, but I kind of questioned his motives, and it put me somewhat on guard. He even moved me, which made me wonder even more so.