1. Look at her posture and her expression before you approach her.

You don't want to talk to a girl who is scowling, or looking like she is ready to hurt someone. Defensive or overly aggressive body language is a clear sign that talking to her is probably a bad sign. If she seems to be lost in her headphones listening to music, don't make a move. If she looks rushed, don't try to slow her down and talk to her. Girls who are visibly showing that they don't want to talk to anyone don't want to talk to you.

2. Think about where you are.

Where you happen to be at that current moment can offer a lot of insight into her personality, her likes, as well as thinks she'd want to talk about with you. For example, meeting a girl at a bar that is known for wine tasting means that you may be able to approach her by asking her if she's drinking a Pinot Noir or a Merlot. Using that same pick up line at a punk rock bar, on the other hand, will fall flat 90% of the time. If a girl is at a park, she may want to talk about fitness. If she's at a mall, then the easiest way to get her attention is to ask her what you should buy for your sister or female cousin, and tell her that she has great taste. Use your common sense.

3. Look for major indicators of interest.

Another good way to get a good approach in is to look for things that suggest that a girl has a particular interest or passion. Example - if she's carrying a tuba, ask how long she's played it.

4. Do not be the slut-shamer.

Because of the nature of my past, I have a personal vendetta against guys who call women sluts and whores. But really, most women don't feel comfortable around guys who use either term, because they don't want to be judged for being "easy" if they do decide to sleep with you. You don't have to go full-force sex positive male feminist, but avoid using "slutty" or "skanky" to describe girls around her, unless you are in agreement with something she's saying. (I know, double standard, but some girls put down other girls in order to make themselves feel better and generally, it's better to play along with it or brush it off than it is to argue with them about it.)

5. Don't be afraid to joke about yourself.

Girls love a guy who is confident enough to realize that they will like being around him despite his imperfections. I can recall a good example of this with one of my exes, whom I'll call Mr. Green. Mr. Green was a cybergoth, which in turn meant that his hair (at least when he was not working) was neon green, and put up into dreads that were then placed into a high ponytail. The effect of said hairstyle was that it made him sometimes look like a neon green pineapple.

Girls (and there were a LOT of them in his general location, no matter where he went) loved the fact that he was so confident about himself that he nicknamed himself "the Pineapple Head." That guy was insanely popular with women, to the point that it actually became a problem and we broke up over it.

This is outstanding advice. I hope guys actually listen (or read) when a female gives advice b/c usually it's decent.

The only glitch whatsoever is the compliment on her Mall taste. for 90% of the guys reading that's fine advice. In a more experienced guys case in that scenario, I want her to think , I think her taste is interesting. Not good or bad. From there I can be politically correct but that element of "what does he really think about what I said" is usually rarely bad.

Very vague and not really the best advice. Also 3. is completely wrong... An IOI is where someone shows interest in you. iois-the-complete-list-vt12025.html

1. That's all subjective. From personal experience i've had some of the best conversations from a woman who was upset. "You look upset. Someone as pretty as you shouldn't be so sad. Are you all right?" That's all you need say. It's innocent, you're showing a care for how she's feeling and you're complimenting her. Worst case scenario she asks to be left alone in which case you wish her the best and hope she feels better then move on. Most of the time i've had it where women respond really well, sometimes they'll just want a distraction or they will just bitch about the usual("My friend is a bitch... Blah blah"). Just nod and agree, don't address her problem and talk about something completely unrelated then introduce yourself.

2. This point really doesn't need to be said as it's just about the most obvious thing you should have already known previous to pick up.

5. This only applies if you want to be the JOKER of the group. This is not always the best role to take up in a group as you're deemed the entertainer which isn't good. Your only value in such groups is entertaining them. Girls may act nicely around him and want him around but nine times out of ten you can bet your last €5 that very few -- if any -- find him sexually appealing especially when he deliberately lowers his own value in order to gain acceptance/proximity from those around him. The Joker isn't an Alpha of himself or any group. Stay away from this role at all costs!

By all means joke every now and then but don't give yourself needy nicknames like "I'm the pineapple head" and be known as the jokester.