I've had plenty of nights where I go out solely just to talk to girls, i'd get dressed up, listen to good music ect and maybe even have a coffee/energy drink, but what usually happens is i'd go out, seems to be the moment I get on the train (Or committing to the night out since there's no refunding a train ticket) I start getting nervous, i'd mope around clubs like a loner and can never seem to chat to them. Or if I stick to my local bars i'd walk in the door, see that its not packed or there's no familiar face and give myself an excuse to abort mission.

I've always wondered why this keeps happening and why I end up with the dreaded 'big 0' nights (Where you dont even talk to a single girl) but I found the answer from last nights experience

Avoid starting the night with 'Im going to talk to girls and see how I do', if you're a shy guy like me what this will do is put pressure on you, you'll be thinking so much you will have 0 spontainity which is compulsorary to talk to strangers, even dudes and a lot of the time you will talk yourself out of every single opportunity, why? Because the brain is always switched on and your inner child who wants to have fun and make new friends will be smothered by your over-protective mind

DO however, start the night with a different mindset (Or mission) like 'Im going out to make new friends and have fun' Most people can do this pretty easily and in my case a good time is required weekly since im a full time college student. I still spent some time readying myself for the night out as usual, I went to the first bar and thought 'Ill be damned if im just going to stand around here like a fool holding a drink hoping shit will happen, im going to go and talk to this bloke to warm up socially'

Long story short, I DID complete my mission, I had a great time, made new friends and the cherry ontop, I talked to several sets of girls, gained social, approaching and convo EXP, drank, danced to music and the only thing that went wrong was I was blown off by a girls lesbo friend (She was just a 6 anyway not worth redeeming myself over) So I made some tiny mistakes too and gave myself something to learn from aswell but I was so proud of myself talking fearlessly to all those girls I can humbly say 'Well done ' This to me is a breakthrough and I have expanded my comfort zone

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"