I have met a girl of undeniable high quality; good looking, smart and a self-confessed heart breaker. She is also very nice, simply so self-assured that guys tend to fall at her feet. As I know a little bit now, and have experienced the perils of pedestals and losing the head I immediately began seeing other girls once I met her in the hopes of maintaining a high state and not getting intimidated by her. I feel like I did great on the first couple of dates but I slipped a bit on the third. I think it is still there for the taking. Sometimes I feel she has been seeking compliments and I have neglected to give them, maybe this was good, maybe it wasn't, I don't know.

My question is: when is the right time to tell her I like her without lowering my value? Or just when is the right time to become more open without lowering my value? When is the right time to start complimenting for example? Right now we have kissed and no more, I work nights which is part of the reason for that. We have been on three dates. Any help much appreciated!

Don't worry about this shit, it will work itself out, your a man you don't need to explain every thing you do, or your intentions. She doesn't give two shits about anything your saying anyway, she already knows.

She is however very in tune to everything you are doing.
This is your focal point, ESCALATE IT! Treat her like any other girl you just wanted to bang, you may think "This one is different, I need to walk on eggshells!" But she is NOT, and NO you don't.

Your already starting to glue her precious ass to that very pedestal you wanted to avoid. So fucking stop it now, Do you want to fuck her? or worship at her feet with the rest of the crowd.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thank you.

I get on really well with this girl, and she likes me. I have been a bad ass most of the time, self-assured, funny and not needy. Buyer dynamic, the whole shebang. Can I be a little bit honest about my vulnerability?

Why? Are you vulnerable?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

working on entitlement issues i would say, trust issues and what not, been burned before, feel a lot calmer right now though

When is the time to tell her you like her? Err... Right away...why else are you talking too her?

Compliments? Whenever she does something compliment worthy...

Goodness

I swear if there is one useful thing I learned about pickup in all the books I read and the experience I had, it's reward good behavior and punish bad behavior.

You have to escalate to sex before it's too late. DO NOT mention to her that.
Just do it while you are with her. If you treat her as that special person in your life before the both of you go into a relationship, it's gone.

You have to show vulnerability at some point. That is inevitable if you like this girl enough to be your girlfriend.

vulnerability? sure..
told her something like. You know, why i still did not take you and fuck you, like my toy queen?
You know, to be honest i feel vulnerable, and my psychatrist told me, that early sex destroying relationships.
I have feeling were going well, and sex is biggest expression of feelings for me, thats the reasong why i am
so patient with you.
But now. I feel its going well!
Come to my place, we will not have sex.
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end of story.

Its stronger when you told her this eye to eye.(really close eye contact)
you will see impact, when she will go to kiss you, and try to take you to the toilets.

Vulnerability is one of the most misunderstood concepts in the pick up community.
To be vulnerable is a very attractive characteristic, as long as you're ok with your life.
What I mean is that to always appear made of ice is often the exact opposite of appearing self-confident and relaxed.

Seriously, once you're ok with yourself, it should come naturally not to invest too much in the early state. And if you feel like telling her something more deep, you'll know it is the right moment.

I suggest you reading Mark Manson "Attract women through honesty", he explains extremely well why vulnerability can actually be an extremely fascinating trait.
99% of self-declaring alphas are actually faking, imo.

Be open to every single outcome, but be attached to none

Personally Im not "nice" to women untill after I close them, I may saw they are pretty in passing, but then neg them. Wait till after you close them to give them genuine compliments. Why tell someone you like them when you can show them by kissing then fucking them?