So here is a chronological breakdown to my problem I am going through with a girl who works in close vicinity of me. YES YES YES I know...coworker...bad...but I am a guy, even worse...an AFC.. I couldnt help it

JUNE
-New girl gets hired at work, we start talking
-We start off with small talk, work related convos, getting to know each other, etc....

JULY
-We start taking breaks together and leave work together. Sometimes she will come to my cubicle and get me, sometimes I will go to hers and get her.
-We start emailing sometimes, she usually initiates the emails
-She start exhibiting more signs of interest, yet can't read her quite yet


AUGUST (Important month)
1. She starts to become confusing, I start to think she is playing mindgames.
2. She says we shouldn't talk until 4:30 so that we don't get in trouble, I agree to it because we talked a lot during work hours and managers would see, yet the next day she comes to my cubicle at 3:00 and talks to me... WTF. mindgame alert? also made her seem controlling.
3. During our walks...sometimes she would cross her arms... I can't tell if this means "i'm not interested"
4. We decided we should go hang out, she seems eager and wants to do it that weekend, so on that Friday i ask for her number, she asks for mine instead..... I knew that was a bad sign but I still gave it to her because I figure, if she doesn't text back, shes not interested
5. The next day (when we were supposed to hang out), she actually texts me saying she couldnt go. Im surprised she actually texted me in the first place. I wont ask her out anymore though, she can set up the next one if she is interested
6. One day I ask if she wants to take break, she turns red, seems like she got mad, and went with me still. WTF? We always took break, what the fuck changed. Mindgame alert.
7. She got really curious about a 1 on 1 meeting I wanted to have with a manager, she wanted to know the purpose of the meeting but I said "id rather not say", she seemed to get mad and kept trying to get me to say it, I never told her
8. I emailed her asking if her co-worker (some old lady) was present in the office. She emails me back saying "Why do you ask....?". I reply, "I dunno, i'm just asking". She replies "Sure".
Did she get jealous or something?

I really need help. I'm suspecting either
1) She is playing mindgames with me and acting interested when she really isn't
2) She is attracted to me and likes me but she needs to be in control of everything...including me

Either way, I am going to start ignoring her because I'm starting to feel like it is unhealthy for me and (if she is playing mindgames) I need to prevent it for happening any longer. Please help me.

Your the dummy playing mind games with yourself. Judging by her actions that you've described, she's into you but you keep doubting her attraction to you ( probably low self esteem ).

"Im surprised she actually texted me in the first place."

Here's your answer: It's sounds like your not taking control and playing the dominant role of the man.