It's known that not all guys can pull off all different pickup styles. Everyone needs to play off their own strengths and expand on them. Some people go direct because they are more brazen and outgoing. Other, more introverted people, do indirect i guess.

I'm trying to find myself and my own style. Ive always been a dominant asshole type person. I'm unabashedly realistic and unemotional. I do not like doing things that don't entertain me. I hate being fake. I don't deal with emotions well at all. I escape drama as if its a plague.

My guess is that the game I should base myself on would be direct, cocky funny and natural as opposed to canned material.

Is this a fair assumption?

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i am a bit like you, with all that asshole attitude, bit arrogant, unemotional and so on, if truly found my type of game which envolves a bit cocky funny attitude mixed with a lot of negs and then just being as alpha and confident as possible and that is working perfectly fine for me... and by your description it seems like the alpha style would be the way for you too...

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My least favorite thing about the whole PUA mantra are the canned openers - so by all means use your own stuff. 70-90% of canned material is so bad that I wouldn't even think of using it in 'practice' much less actually on the field. I also feel like canned material is for the more socially inept/awkward (I don't mean this in a derogatory way) guys. If you can hold a good conversation, then that's fantastic and one less thing to worry about - the important things to focus on then are body language/tone of voice, kino, and demonstrating value.

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A woman is attracted to the yin and yang of a man. He must be soft, but aggressive when it counts. Only if you are a sociopath do you truly feel nothing. You do have complex emotions, just present them with an alpah attitude. "So I told my friend, fucking man up and LOVE!" So you see the balance? Yin and Yang, don't be too much of one or the scale tips and she gets bored. You don't need routines to convey this attitude. I work out hard and feel awesome all the time, not emotional, just happy so with that frame girls have NO choice but to enter. If they don't, then why am I sticking around?

Hope it helps.

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[quote="Eerie"]...cocky funny and natural as opposed to canned material.

Is this a fair assumption?[/quote]


Yes. The answer for me is obvious. I have seen canned material being used, and it sounds stale, fake and ridiculous, exactly because it's not natural. If you ever feel tempted to use that sort of thing, a much better use of your time would be to join an acting class and learn some improv. skills, or stand-up comedy where you have to think fast and be funny at the same time, not to mention the ability to handle hecklers (rejection!)

The solution, as always, is in overall self-improvement which includes socialisation skills, by mixing with many types of people.

I am not totally opposed to canned material like the others here.

Canned material= training wheels.

If you are just starting out, maybe canned material will help you. I still use canned openers that I create on my own. I even use some canned DHV routines, and I have some canned one liner negs that I have memorized.

But I get increasingly natural throughout the conversation, and become cocky funny.

The real goal of the canned opener is to get the conversation started, after that, you still need solid natural game to keep it going.

is the canned meterial only to find in books i have to buy or also as well to find on the internet somewhere? for free ?

It's easy to find canned material with video's on youtube. Chance's are you've probably heard some before

"You look like trouble"

"Are you one of those girls that takes forever to get ready or do you just look like it?"

"I need a female opinion on...whatever"

"Does this shirt make me look gay?"



I mean hell you could walk up and ask the girl if she preferred hot shower's or cold shower's and probably pull. From my experience (the bit that I have) it doesn't really seam to be what you say as long as you're not a complete asshole about how you say it. I believe you just want to sound genuine/original and have an outgoing, playfully fun attitude with an assertive side. Make sure you stand up straight with your chin up and look her in the eye's when you talk and once conversation is started I usually try to show that I'm relaxed by leaning on something. I haven't approached in years I just came out of an almost 4 year relationship and to be honest I've found myself facing approach anxiety but I have done cold approaches before and usually 30 sec's into it I don't feel it no more but lately I can't get up the nerve

But to answer your question yes there is canned material all over the internet

you said "I dont deal with emotions well at all"

So I think the problem is not htat you are unemotional and need to learn how to game without emotion...I think its that you have emotions but dont want to face them and deal with them. And your idea of being an alpha male man is being one of these fake macho faggots who pretends not to have feelings. This goes against every precept of the game. YOu havnt done any work on your inner game, so you wont be able to succeed with the game. Hows that for unebashedly realistic? YOu need to be able to face the fact that you have feelings. And whats more, if you are going to interact with women romantically in any capacity, your going to have to deal with emotions at some point. And if you think that pretending to be unemotional is a sign of strenght, guess again. Its a sign of weakness and being a scared little bitch. Scared of yourself and scared of actually connecting with another person on a greater level than physically. ANd thats why you havnt been able to succeed in the game and are looking to taper it to what you call a "personality type" which is actually technically what is called a "personality disorder". YOuve got some serious inner demons to face man. And until you can get in touch with yourself psychologically your going to be hard pressed to connect with a woman sexually, or get very far with much else in life. Youve gotta start doing some seriously devoted work to the game as the masters have laid it out, which starts with the inner workings.

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I completely agree. I've just been jaded by past experiences. Inner game though doesn't seem like it is something that could just be worked on like that. How does one go about locking down your inner game? What are these strategies that have been "laid out?"

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Well your personality will attract a certain type of girl... if this is the type of girl that you want... one that gets turned on by assholes... then your good to go...