Post subject: I learned a key quality last night that changed everything!Posted: Sun Jun 02, 2013 12:15 pm

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Ok so when i went out I had no intentions of getting any phone number or anything.
So here I am enjoying this great band at this bar and I spot a woman who is the hottest girl at the whole bar. Every male has their eyes on her and I have a "I'm the prize" mentality. Anyways later in the night , my boys are sitting at this same table and I join them and notice that this woman and her friends are sitting over there too. This is when our first interation starts. He friend actually starts talking to me about the other night asking me if I remember her name. I said , "don't pull that on me, im bad with names." To which she says do you remember my face? I tell her yes. She calls me a liar jokingly and I just ignore it. Then the hotter girl in the bar starts asking us all our names. Me I'm just being cool and relaxed like I don't have a care in the world. She asks me for my name.
change names , talk about foreign countries because we're both interested in traveling. I ask her open ended questions and just build a connection with her. (This guy who was in their group was actually trying to get her to go inside with her/ I just ignore the cockblock, kept talking and kept eye contact on her/ she ignores him too) We have a really passionate conversation for about 10 minutes. After a good chat I see a band member at the other table and decide that I want to go over and talk to him. I walk over and talk about music my passion! Then I see "her" go back inside. I continue talking to this band and my friends come over and join us. It's at this point where I realized I should've gotten her number and I was starting to regret not getting it. So I tell the boys I'm going to the bathroom , I go use the bathroom and get done and I see her at the bar. I decide Im going for it. Take out my phone , put her name walk over to her and tell her that she is going to teach me spanish. She tells me ," I want you to teach me spanish" I said ok fine and tell her to our her number in. As I'm saying be i tell her "give me a kiss on the cheek" and she tells me " I don't know you like that" and I respond with y"you know that is how it is in Spain, so she gives me 2 kisses on both cheeks. I leave to go outside. Later that night I see her go outside, I walk up to her and text her my name, to make sure it was the right number. It was the right one . I say later and her the both cheeks. That's the last time I saw her that night. I left went home and about 30 minutes later she text me about a party going on somewhere. I tell her that I'm going to sit this one out and watch over my buddy, but dont worry ill see you again" . We've all been drinking and nobody wanted to drive. Well she hasn't text back since last night and I'm just like if she does great , if not then its all good too. I'm thinking about sending a text later on and take it from there.

I learned that I can still be a little overweight , confident, wearing one of those funny shirts with a quote, and body language. I have to mention this is only the 2nd time in 4 years that i asked for a womans number. first time i got shut down (1 month ago) but this time i got the hottest girl around. I'm more a natural type , I'm trying to understand what I do subconsciously and make it a concious thing so I can be more successful. Confidence is key, not caring if she goes home with you or not because someone else eventually will. Body language , learn it be layed back and relaxed, not stressed out and self concious, and dont be corny. Just be you but be the best you can be as a person.
If you want to make a change in your life dont try, do your best to do so.

Ps I would like some advice not having a car as living with my parents. Feel free to drop tips/comments.

To get better at this stuff just approach more girls. You have the right mindset you just need to go out more and talk to more women. Watch videos, read articles and eventually it will just happen. One day you will "get it".

As for the girl in your story, I like that you left without getting her number the first time. It's something I started doing a lot lately and it's worked really well. My game is by no means perfect (just recently got back into it), but this is what I do. I approach and say hi, I have good body language and can make girls laugh so most like me. Then I go get a drink, go back to my group, go where I was going. Start talking to another girl who's nearby whatever. I'm not rude I tell them I think they are cool and really cute and that I might see them around then I walk off (will probably post a thread about this actually).

It shows value, no neediness and that you are a social guy. You saw her again and got her number, she texte you inviting you to see her again, you declined. Wait another day and call her.

Cheers

Oh and as for the no car, parents situation. Get a job, save for a car and move out. It's the best solution. At least try get a car or access to one.

Although, these days people expect young adults to live with their parents so its not as much of a social dlv than it used to be. If you are over 25 and still there, you need to get out ASAP!!!

Thanks for the comments. Yeah I have a job and am about to get a new job with better pay, ill be getting a car in September , guess I just have to man up and suggest going to her house or if she can pick me up. Hah

Just take her to your place man. What are your parents going to do? Say "no! My son can't get laid!"

I thought you were talking about the Dlv of living with parents lol.

I lived with my super conservative grandmother for 6 years until I was 23, used to bring girls home all the time (well not all the time, every now and then but you know what I mean).

I hav a little sister and I don't want to set a bad example , sure in down for her comming over if no one is home. I also live 20 minutes away from the city. Just seems like a lot to ask. Im just ready to get my ride, ill have to work on going over to her house when in in the city.