But pretty sure I am, (If you think your in the friend zone you probably are).
So a quick backstory on the subject. Things started off well, I live with this girl and think I may have stronger feelings towards her then previously. She's really into one of my best mates who's only interested in a quick root. We're both at uni and I can see how he doesn't want a relationship with the lifestyle we possess right now. At the same time I'm also interested in meeting new women but if the right one comes along I will settle for a great relationship.
Anyway this girl, having feelings towards my friend and he is aware but not interested keeps trying to hang around him. Because I live with her I feel like the middleman in this shit and it's messing my game. We went out to a concert this afternoon in which she shouted for me because I don't have cash 'till monday. I took that as an IOI followed by her asking me for a cigarette. I looked at her cheekily and put out my thumb and stated if you beat me in a thumb wrestle then we will consider it. I suck and lost all night but at the same time I got her playing this fun little game with me every time she craved one.
I took this as another IOI and also felt like we were definitely escalating but I couldn't kiss close and the opportunity arose on so many occasions. I've been out of the game for so long and all my nerves broke me down trying to seize the chance. I went about trying it in a totally bad way and told her my cheeks are numb, it's so cold tonight. She responded with that's what happens when you have to much to drink
I guess after that I gave up but I feel like the opportunity maybe there but the window of opportunity is very small and I have to show that I'm the better guy over my mate. Nothing personally cause we're the best of friends and I asked him if it was cool which it is.

What's the best way to handle this situation even though I'm aware I need to grow a pair and approach her for the kiss?

As if I needed any more evidence. She texted me at 3:30 what I was doing and that she was bored. I said I was watching a film and that she should come over. Well she came over and sat together on my bed for 30 mins we had a few laughs and things were going great. Then she said I've brushed my teeth and I went to go do mine. To which she has replied ok well I think I'm going to bed not feeling well! FFS!!!!!!! lol I felt like I was going to close the deal and that I got a second chance. Why did I not kiss her right as she was leaving! My heads messed up now help!

We've all been there..

Why would she randomly say "I've brushed my teeth?" or did I read that wrong?
Either way you need to get into the mindset you have nothing to lose. If this girl is texting you at 3:30 asking to see you because she's bored I'm guessing that is a pretty good sign.

Well I just blew it! She said something along the lines of I just brushed my teeth after smoking.Anyway I texted her come back for a sec! She responded nearly an hour later and said I didn't see your message until now. It's 5 at this point and she still couldn't sleep so I thought maybe she is still thinking about me. Well I went over to her room since she wanted me to tell her what was on my mind. I then looked at her and told her we couldn't be friends because I have feelings towards you. She then said I'm so sorry I didn't know well I was going to leave it at that cause I new I blew it and didn't straight up kiss her.

BUT

final texts afterwards to try and make it better...
"Look that totally wasn't how I wanted to express my feelings but if you want to stay friends it's cool. You're real fun to be around [name]"

"thankyou so much for telling me. im sure that wasn't easy for you and I appreciate it but I don't want to hurt you. whatever your comfortable with im happy to keep my distance if you would like."


this has really fucked up my confidence. not because I got rejected but because I didn't act how I wanted too. guess I should of followed mums advice and realised nothing good happens after 2am