Hey everybody, I am a senior in high school and I am a very good looking guy, not bragging but trying to help everyone understand I have the looks, but not too much game. All these girls always at first seem so interested in me and everything and I acknowledge them and all but I don't give them too much attention. Now a lot of these girls that used to like me are mean to me to my face and try to put me down in group texts. The girl says I am dumb and another acts like I am mean. They are being serious though not joking. I realized that in the past I have acted somewhat whiney and I am trying to be more alpha, but I dont know why they don't like me because I try to be nice. Around girls, I can be sarcastic at times though but I dont know if this is what it is.

What do you guys think the problem is/how I should address it? If they don't like me in an attraction way like they used to, I at least want them to start being nice and be friends with them. Also, what do you do when a friend puts you down in front of girls or in a group text with girls? Is the best thing to do ignore him and call him out later?

Stop looking for their approval first of all. You are wasting valuable thoughts and valuable energy that can be used on more productive issues, such as fixing those problems within yourself as you described. This is how a girl works. Their emotions fluctuate and tend to vary. As a guy, you are starting to look for a logical explanation which will only cause further confusion. To answer your question, you just focus on your issues and let them vent their need to tear you a new asshole. They will get tired of it once they see you are comfortable in your own skin.

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The girls are probably frustrated with not getting your attention. That's it. They're teenage girls and do stupid things when they're not happy. Flirt a little bit with them and you'll see. If they thought they're getting your attention, they might be all over you again.

You know, Paul, High School is a bitch. Everyone is full hormones and other such witchcraft. Having your game together at that age would be something pretty amazing indeed.

IMO, first I'd ditch the idea that you're a hot guy. Maybe it gets you some interest, but it's irrelevant. I agree completely with Mr. Assertive's approval comment.

The reason the girls are being mean is because you are in a harsh social environment and with that many extremely insecure people running around, you are going to get a lot of meanness. Insecure people hurt others to try and make themselves feel superior and they especially target those from a superior gene pool. Get used to it and appreciate it.

Another thing, not sure if you realize, but your entire post comes off as whiny. What I actually read from what you've posted is this: I'm insecure and I think I'm attractive, but I don't have the validation of others and I'm not accepted by others and it hurts my feelings.

I would suggest not worrying so much about your "game", you have none, which is really, really an okay thing. Go out and learn about yourself. Have as much fun as you possibly can. Just do whatever is interesting to you and do things that will challenge you to your core. Learn to make people laugh and to be completely comfortable in your skin.

PS As far as what to do if someone puts you down in front of others...fight them...or not. Just the fact that it happens means you're not Alpha, but at least they are challenging you.

your probably acting needy.

Likely of all scenarios. No pics of yourself or girls? If you got looks, you get laid. Enough said.

They thought you were manly by your looks
It turns out you are weak
They pick on you because you are weak and it makes them feel strong

The girls line of thought goes "turns out i actually don't like him even though hes a good looking guy, let me be a jerk to him and it will make me look like I only like guys that are better than him"

"look at Samantha, shes such a jerk to that good looking guy, she doesn't even want him, she must have high standards"