Should I Just Be Myself?
A lot of people disregard learning game because they claim "You just gotta be yourself." There's no point in learning PUA at all because I can already attract girls by just expressing the real me to them. Eventually Ill find a girl that's interested in me for who I am. Yes, I've heard that a gazzzilion times.There's a lot of truth behind that simple statement. And at the same time there are implications in it that if internalized will lead to a sad, sad life.

THE TRUTH BEHIND "JUST BE YOURSELF."
One of the most attractive attributes in a man is being Authentic. Being the REAL YOU is a massive turn on for women. High-status men are so confident in how fuckin AWEEESSOOME they are that they feel that they have no need to be someone they're not. Being fake scares women off. It comes off as manipulative, creepy and needy. If they senses that you act different around them than how you act with your friends it will come off as super-low value. Always come off as authentic. The more natural and genuine your game is the smoother your game is. However, despite playing game, it is crucial that you express parts of your real personality to the girl. This alone has the potential to improve your game by 200%. And if that chick doesn't appreciate you for who you really are- there's always another girl. By taking risks in your game, your coolness will sky rocket through the roof! By always playing it safe you"ll be perceived as predictable, boring and too lonely to risk saying something that she may dislike.

EXPOSING THE LIE THAT VIRGINS BELIEVE.
Imagine someone with with terrible self-esteem, with no life-force (energy) in him, who's impulsive to the point where he spends more than he owns, has a temper so bad that he throws chairs through windows and has ZERO enthusiasm for life or anything else. If he will just be himself he's life (not a life really) will be exposed and he basically would have no chances with women (pity will only get you so far lol). He cannot just be himself.

Instead he needs to change himself to someone who has an empowering, charming personality and who's passionate about his awesome life. While this isn't the exact case for us, however, it proves that similarly we can get higher quality chicks in our lives by transforming our personalities and lifestyles into more seductive ones. If you keep doing what you've always been doing you will keep getting what you've always been getting. Change is your best friend, not an enemy.

Completely agree. The term "yourself" is simply too subjective to apply to everyone. What exactly is "yourself" for a person? How can they measure it? Is it measured by how comfortable you are doing it? What if I said that to a rapist? He's pretty comfortable doing it I'd say. Is it how much you enjoy it? The rapist is pretty happy doing what he does.

I don't see change as being something that you aren't, rather it should be seen as a process of refining and honing yourself to be the best possible "you" that you could be.

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Life is too short to be anything but happy; what you do today is extremely important - you're trading a whole day of your life for it.

I'd add that interpersonal dynamics play a big part here.
This is where calibration is important.

Also, most communication texts advise to know and understand your audience, know what message you're trying to send.
If you're gaming a flirty bimbo, high energy and lots of personality are needed. If its the reserved librarian, the opposite would apply.

Just be yourself relevant to the moment.

Cheers
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wisdom is knowing what to do next virtue is doing it
Translation - Thought without action is pointless!

I really dont believe in the whole being yourself is the key to success, for everyone. I've seen plenty of people who were genuinely themselves, they act the same around everyone, but there is nothing cool or sexy about there personality. Yes, you have to be authentic and real, but your "real" personality have to actually be one that actually attracts women.

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"The bird sets itself on fire… and in the embers is an egg. In order to do great things, you've got to recreate yourself again ,and you can’t do that holding to a glory or a failure from yesterday. "