i've been way off my game lately. i've been trying to be more social/natural in my game, but i tend to have problems when i'm at a party where i don't really know anyone, except one of my friends, so I just end up feeling awkward and out of place and it's just not a good state. anybody have tips on how to get comfortable in these situations?

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when people are out, at a party, at a club/bar or some other social setting - just keep in mind, that they *want* to communicate. They want to be social. That's why they are "out" and not "in".

Interaction, is actually like a gift. Anyone who you take the time to communicate with, is actually receiving a gift from you. They are receiving your boldness and interest. They are having their night made a little more interesting, because don't you like to meet new people when you're out? If you don't meet new people when you're out, is it even any fun?

When someone approaches you, especially when you're not talking to anyone else, do you ever really have a negative reaction to that? More likely you're pleased to be socializing. And it's that person who engaged you who is to thank for that interaction.

So, my advice, just think of talking to someone as a gift you're giving to that person and remember, that you will almost always be well received.

Another thing you can do, is just chime in on a conversation that's being had when you have something relevant to contribute. Eavesdrop a little and wait for a moment to join in.

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It's easy to feel out of place, because if you are invovled in an interaction with someone, you are immersed and entertained and it's not a problem. But if you are disconnected and not socializing, then all you can do is stand and look outward and stare at all the other people who are engaging one another and having fun. This makes you feel isolated, bored, and sometimes even intimidated. Most of us have had experiences with that. I'm not the most social person, I have anti-social tendencies, and I'm sometimes reluctant to jump in the convo or lead a conversation of my own.

A little trick is to find someone else who looks like they are having the same problem you are, then start talking to them. You two basially form your own set, lolz. It's not the best case scenario, but it's a start. It will at least get you warmed up.

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