Hey guys, Rofer here; I wouldn't say I've ever been a pua, but been into pick up since summer 2010. In this time I've tried every method in existence; from MM and eventually ending up in natural game. All this time and the only instances where my game was on the level where I could comfortably say that I had mastered P.U.A. was when I actually was not sarging. Let me explain myself, after all the books and methods, I was only good when the concepts I'd learned were not being applied; this made me think for a long time that P.U.A. was just a bunch of bullshit.

I WAS WRONG! Natural game can actually be very helpful when trying to seduce women. The problem was that I was missing one key factor that all the books leave out. I only noticed this when I took a step back and looked at the big picture. What natural game teaches us is to be well adjusted guys with no fear when it comes to women, but what natural game and most if not all methods of P.U.A. do is put a wall around you so that you can be an awesome version of yourself.

There are 2 problems with being an awesome version of yourself:

1) An awesome version of yourself is not you; it is a law of nature that an object in an unnatural state needs energy to remain in that state, take away the energy and it returns to its natural state.

2) Most of the time women see through this transparent vail that we put up ruining our chances on the spot.

Improving yourself is great, but only if you do it for the right reasons and pickup is not one of them. the only way that we will ever become true natural P.U.A.s is to become VULNERABLE. This means (I know it sounds corny but bear with me) learn to love yourself, or at least be ok with yourself; your whole self faults and all so that your true personality can shine, not just the shiny parts, but the not so shiny ones too.

We spend most of our lives avoiding vulnerability. The fear of rejection? Fear of being vulnerable to ridicule. Needyness? The fear of being vulnerable to judgment. Don't know what to say? Fear of being vulnerable to judgment. Even the most basic P.U.A. problems boil down to FEAR OF VULNERABILITY.

So, I ask, what would happen if you just let this fear go and let women see you for who you really are? Try it, you wont be sorry.

Great post man,

I really like the thought process of this and that's what I'm aiming for also, just a lot of people that come on here not only have problems with women, but issues with social connections what so ever. They have the frame of mind that they are basically, socially awkward. (based on my experience at least)

When they do a lot more research it helps them receive the social understanding their friends and family failed to give them. I started all this PUA junk when I moved from my childhood home from 1-18 and I just didn't understand how to connect well. It really is a good post to read though after going through as much research as you have though.