Hi

i'm new in this forum so forgive me if my response didn't quite capture the core of your question
but during the past years i've personally noticed that being great in the theory will just count maximum 35% of the total work of picking up (of course, personal estimations), while the other 65% is just physical (self-confidence that causes perfect body language + looks)
so in my opinion the first thing a beginner should do, is to work on their self confidence, obviously there are many ways you can do that, there are books explaining way better than me how to do it, i'd for example suggest a friend to join a thaj-boxing gym to start, only if you have inner and honest self confidence you give girls/women that feeling they have in front of them someone who can make them enjoy more their life