Alright guys I haven't been on this website for long due to all the business I had in the past few months experimenting my own techniques and things I learned from this forum (thanks to the people that help maintain this forum). So I decided to help out my fellow bros by posting this article which I hope helps others. It's very long but also very informative and may have material that will change your lives.

All the guys in the world probably had this question lingering in their head at one point in their lives. What's the secret to getting woman? Not too long ago woman had the same question about men but now a days the society makes it seem like woman have the power to pick any guy they want. In theory that's true. Think about it! A woman goes to a bar, how many guys approach her? For sure more than one. There you go. So, this woman will have a choice to pick out a guy who's the least of a looser in her eyes. Well this is all in theory. Now lets be practical. Does she really pick the guy SHE WANTS? Not at all, she just picks the guy whom is the LEAST WORST of her choices(99% of the time). She might go out for a date with this guy, make out with him, or possibly even have sex with him but she does this because of her needs not because of her wants. Rarely will she meet a guy that she wants and this is where the PUA community comes in. The PUA community's goal is turn males into ALPHA males the ones that girls want. Unfortunately in the past few years this has not been true. Some PUA materials teach guys how to act like an Alpha males instead of how to be Alpha males. Many guys read PUA books and get inspired and go out and do exactly the methods they learned in the books. Soon they realize that it's not helping them and they're on the same place they started. The reason why acting like an ALPHA male doesn't work is because the nature is designed that way to protect humanity and weed out all the men that are not really ALPHA and thus not capable of protecting their children. Woman have this special sense that can't be explained scientifically but exists. This sense lets them distinguish between real Alpha males and the acting Alpha males. Now, what is a real Alpha male and what is a fake one. Since the term is so loose and is being thrown around so lightly many people have different understanding of what an alpha male is. But here is what I learned from trying all sorts of theories and methods. Alpha male is a guy who likes himself more than anyone and will always place himself before anyone else. Also an real alpha male makes himself vulnerable in the sense that he puts himself on the line because he is not afraid of what others will say and thinks that he is entitled to whatever he wants to do. He will not go up to a girl and fake just to get in her pants because he considers himself to be so special that he considers acting and faking to be degrading for him because he knows his real self is better. A fake Alpha male thinks his fake self is better than his real self and the woman senses that. You will be able to get the woman you want when you think highly of yourself and love yourself to the core. You let woman know who you are and what you like even if that's not what they would like to hear because your job is not to satisfy them but rather to satisfy yourself. At first it might be painful and few girls might run away from you when you tell them what you want to tell them instead of being cautious and be stuck inside your head. But this will make you love yourself even more and will make you feel much more entitled and you will grow and soon woman will be finding you attractive. The main thing is you will be finding yourself attractive and no ones opinion will matter to you when it comes to your core self. I out of time and the article is too long already. I hope this helps and opens up people to a new perspective on their game and life.

- Amazing Art -

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

Great post! It sucked reading it though.

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"Be the Man. Get the girl. Master The Masculine."

There is actually no big 'secret' to getting any woman you want.

Most women are looking for someone who can 'listen' to them. So, if you are a behemoth of muscle and bone, shooting testosterone out of your nose, a track of 'Alpha! Alpha!' on an infinite loop in your head and loving the sound of your own voice above everyone else's, it's not going to be doing anything for you.

Wire your jaw, take a moment to process what she just told you, and then respond to her words. She'd be more attracted to you based on the fact that you paid attention to her words, instead of her phenomenal assets.

For those of you who like to be painted a picture, this is your way of being the needle in the haystack, not the haystack. Or something.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Women are attracted to Alpha males, it's hardwired into the genetic wiring of their brains, the thing is they're attracted to alphas for sex, they want the Alpha genes for their offspring but the "Alpha qualities" they get are dominant warrior traits and good genes of a physical type.

The other side of the coin is the protector/investment Alpha these are the guys with wealth (access to resources) intelligence (survivability in a hostile environment) empathy (will stick with the mother and child) and healthy psychology. These are the relationship quality guys. The ideal scenario for the woman (there is a lot of research in this matter) is to have a child with the protector/invester guys but also become impregnated by the dominant/warrior guys with the protector investor guy bringing up and protecting the child.

Because dominant/warrior Alphas tended to have more than their fair share of resources in the ancestral environment it gets a fair bit more complicated in modern society, but if you can exhibit both traits to a woman through body language, frame control,empathy, DHV's etc then you won't go far wrong.

@ Dan.

If you thinking woman are looking for someone who can "listen to them" you should rethink that. There are plenty of guys that listen to woman's crap and they become the friend. Woman are looking for guys who listen to themselves. This doesn't mean selfish guys. It means guys who don't compromise their boundaries (beliefs, values).

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I know that you're never going to 'take my word' for it, so here's a few articles for you to ponder upon -

Why Don't We Listen To Women?, by Curt Smith (Relationship Correspondent, Askmen.com)

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_ ... dvice.html

Become A Better Listener, by Vatche Bartekian (Stress Management Specialist, Askmen.com)

http://www.askmen.com/money/body_and_mi ... iving.html

Listening to Women, by Mark (Practical Pick Up)

http://www.practicalpickup.com/listening-to-women


Read them, then think about the information. Deeply. And you'll understand the difference between actively listening to the information you get and treating it with laughs or sighs or fawns, as the men who end up as their 'friends' do.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Don's absolutely right, here. AmazingArt, I like how you worded your takes on assertiveness and "Alpha-maleness," but while being strong, assertive, or however you want to word it, is simply a good part of being a man, what Don said is truth. I encourage you to check out the third article in particular on why you should listen.

I'm not going to create a whole lecture on men's vs women's needs and why you need to listen, but I will tackle what I believe to be the crux of the misunderstanding.

AmazingArt is bringing up a very good point about how simping in a conversation and just listening to women in hopes they like you, usually plants you in a friend-zone. I agree with this. But that's because you're not actually listening. Do you care about what they're saying? Do you see them as a human being who has needs and a past, or just as a plaything?
Right on. So then, you are listening to their crap? Why would you listen to crap? To quickly oversimplify, there are two types of women: the attention-whore hoodrats at clubs who spout nonsense, act out, create havoc, etc, and mature, adult women who are out for fun. There are very attractive girls on either side, and it's equally easy to meet either one, so don't shoot for the bottom rung! That first type of female is going to be saying a whole lot of crap. Don't listen to that. If she's going on and on about how Marcie stole her ex back in the day and she just found out about it when at the hair salon, tell her you don't want to hear the story (unless you really are interested in her soap-opera life). I think you agree with that, and I think that that can build attraction with those types of girls, because they know they're spouting nonsense and like that you can stand up to that.. But if a mature woman is stepping to you and telling her about her hobbies and what she wanted to do with her life as a kid, either listen up so you know who you're with and she knows you don't think of her as purely a pussy, or eject, and go searching for that hoodrat.

Mature, adult human beings have mature adult conversations before doing mature adult things. That's just how it works. If you're not interested in having the conversations, no problem. Nothing wrong with that. Go get less mature women. But when you're ready to pay attention to these women, know that you'll be upgrading you game tremendously.
I think you nailed it here, but I'm not sure if you see what you're saying here. "Listen" in this context is not about hearing. In this context, it's about action. A king listens to all his advisers, then makes the choice he believes is right.

Ex: A woman starts talking to you about her political views. Options:
1. If you aren't interested in politics, just tell her so, or let her know you don't feel like discussing it before you get to more of her.
2. Agree with what she says. Maybe she'll like you if she thinks you align on certain things.
3. Disagree (not argue), and have an intellectual conversation.
4. Just sit there, nod your head, shrug your shoulders, etc.

1 and 3 are both acceptable. It's 2 and 4 that will land you in the friend zone.

I guess the bottom line is that you can always be listening and be interested in the other person. If you are interested. If this person is boring you with their conversation, then why stick around? But if you're hitting it off, why wouldn't you pay attention and show the woman that you actually are hitting it off and not faking it?

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Fresh you bring up great points but I must say the articles that Dan linked are not totally true. Before I get to that point let me clarify. If Dan is referring to "listening" as understanding I would agree that it is necessary. However if he is referring to listening as to "just listen to her" that is wrong. I don't like Mystery Method since it's not natural but in this case I will bring an example. When he interrupts girls while they're talking or just takes away his attention when the girl speaks what usually happens? We would think the girl says in her "what an asshole" and just leave. But exactly the opposite happens. The girl craves for more of his attention and starts to give more IOIs and in some cases touches him physically. Where is the theory of woman are looking for a guy who listens to them. Also it is universally known that assholes get the girls even if they ignore the girl, fight with her, and many other things that is synonymous to "not listening to her". Now, I am not suggesting the guy ignore the girl and do these sorts of stuff but rather that it's not necessary.


As far as the articles that Dan brought up. The second articles says the following
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Identify the problem: you
"She is not the problem, I am." The sooner you learn to say these words, the sooner you'll be on the road to flawless communication.
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Now any article that suggests that the first step is to blame the problem on yourself is already wrong. It could be you but why should you assume right away the problem is with you. This creates a bad habit of right away blaming yourself. Although the article does contain helpful information it is written with the wrong mindset.

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Confidence gets the Girl, Assholes get Credit for Having it

Universally known that the asshole gets the girl????? Really? Where??? I strongly disagree sir. (Isn't his name Don?)

The confident man gets the girl asshole, nice guy, smart guy, idiot, it doesn't matter what he is as long as he is confident he will get a girl. Be careful not to think so linearly once you begin to close your thought process off to something not being able to be accomplished it will exist in your mind.

There are plenty of ways to learn to get the girl, the best way is really a combination of many at the right time intervals. Being an asshole at the wrong time loses the girl just as much as being to submissive at the wrong time.

Listening is a very powerful tool when it comes to connecting with women this is my second part of getting laid process http://scienceofnaturalgame.com/2012/06 ... scalation/ , first attraction then connection and then sexualization (escalating sexually and build sexual tension). When you have a woman attracted, connected, and turned on she is not going to be saying no, she is going to be begging for it with body language and perhaps words.

Learn to Take the Blame

The minute you don't take the blame is the minute you don't allow yourself to be in charge of changing something. If you don't blame yourself for where your life is then you can't change it. If you simply had bad luck what are you going to wait for to change things around.

The moment you play victim of circumstance is the moment you place yourself in a situation you aren't responsible for fixing. You should blame yourself for your poor communication. You should certainly own up to it, you are playing just another ignorant asshole otherwise. A grown man knows how to own up to the situation.

It's one thing to blame yourself for your parents getting divorced, or a plain crashing, car accident but this is a behavior you should blame yourself for. Take the blame for situations you can change otherwise you are playing a victim. "It's not my fault" is the worst possible way you can start a sentence, it shows no maturity.

I come across far too much of the blame this or that attitude, that is not the mentality of a grown man. Step up and say my bad, if you aren't responsible for it you won't be able to change it....

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I guess you haven't read what I said carefully. I never said a person shouldn't blame himself. I said a person should never assume RIGHT AWAY it's his/her fault.

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Translate this for me, it starts with NOW. Maybe I misinterpret what you said but I am completely in disagreement with you on this. Did you read my rebuttal? It included statements about you needing to take the blame, that the first part of changing behavior really is taking the blame.

If communication is the issue than who else can you blame outside of yourself? You seem to think it could possibly be anybody else's fault, how could that be? You have the conscious ability to change that behavior. You can make excuses for your statement all you want it is your fault if you don't know how to communicate with a woman, a person should always assume part of the blame because if you are trying to figure out who's fault it is you aren't figuring out solving the problem.

Your attitude is not of someone who is open to learning. Open your mind up some because you are so adamant about being ALPHA and pounding your chest. I snake girls from "ALPHAS" like you with pure charisma and understanding. Believe it or not being an understanding male helps you bag a far larger percentage of women then asshole. Asshole gets some girls, a guy that is good with girls and is understanding knows when to be an asshole and when to listen each has it's place. Just learn when to use them.


Peace and Love

Vic

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