The girl I'm talking about said to me she likes me and we defenitely had a connection. We dated, now about 2 months ago and I discovered she was dating another guy. In fact, she had planned a date with him before she met me. But, she postponed the date once, and now her date with that guy is on June 3th.

From a common girlfriend I heard that that guy is kiss-assing her. Sending her gifts when she is down and send text like 'I love you'. The part I discovered last week, is that she met this guy via a dating website and actually never met each other before.

So, I blew things up last week. I said to her, if I may dream, I'd like to meet you next week. But, 3 days before that, she said to me, I really really like you, but I have the feeling you really want a girlfriend right now. So, I shouldn't have said that. And there it came. She told me 10 times it would be better to stop and have no contact at all, because she'd think I was holding her back for that other guy. Next day, she started chatting to me. I was really confused and I still am. I know it's better to life my live and go further, but I am thinking of her.

Now, I've got this idea, is this OK? What would you change? I want to sent her a letter - this is my last hope, and since the date is two weeks from now, I must send it as quick as possible to her. [/quote]

the first part i read in that letter was "i cried" and i already knew you were doomed. dont send her a letter, set up something so you can talk to her in person, just say you wanna talk. and dont have a wimpy crybaby look on your face like you'll do whatever she wants to have her back. learn to act like a man that takes charge, takes what he wants and is sure of himself. when you see her just have a normal conversation about anything going on besides whats on your mind and make her laugh a little and be charming, maybe tease her a little, tell her about positive things going on in your life and future plans and just be normal like nothing ever happened. then walk her somewhere private, hold her hands and tell her, "you were right, i did want you to be with me. you're not like every other girl out here and i see that.. but you're hard to impress haha.. you're special thats fer sure, maybe it was just bad timing i dont know, but im glad i met you anyway. (kiss her on the cheek)." if shes looking back at you in the eyes smiling, look at her back and slowly move in then pause then kiss her gently and go with the flow. if you dont kiss her then move on bro. if you do it right and everything goes smooth and your confident, then it could work. its all about how you kiss a girl in the end

Thank you . And how can I get her to talk to me somewhere? Because she really don't want to meet before that date I guess. I talked to some friends, and they actually agree with you. They also told me it would not be smart to talk about that other guy. Just keep the conversations light and wait for the date. Are there some things I can do to let her think of me? One friend of mine told about NLP; saying positive things, just like you said. My sister told me to let her talk; so I don't look desperate and she thinks that letter is really desperate. Today is her birthday and next week her party. A common friend of us will give her a small letter I wrote, with just some sweet words. But I think if I do nothing, she will definitely friendzone me. So what should I do if she doesn't want to talk in person before that date?

FYI: we always talk through MSN/Facebook and I called her 2 times.

listen bro, what women say and what women think are completely different. like i said, be a man and take charge, thats what women want. personally, i wouldnt talk to her today if its her birthday, her mind is gonna be everywhere else, just send her a happy bday text.. then again, there are no rules. but what i would do, is tell her if you can meet her somewhere so you can give her, her bday present the day after. get her a cupcake too lol