So I realized, I'm more confident with other women when I'm dating a woman myself. Somehow, it makes me more interesting, funny and alpha with other women when I know I'm already dating someone and I have nothing to lose.

But when I'm single, I somehow fill myself with a lot of beta-ness.

If I can overcome this, it'll do wonders to my game. Help will be appreciated

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Women are plenty, time is not.

Its simple:

In relationship: You're not trying to impress. You have someone. You're just being naturally funny and cool.

Sinlge: You're a pussy.

Don't try to impress. Just have a good time. And again, girls who know guys are in a relationship are generally more intrigued/easy going cause they get you're not trying to get in their pants.

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"That shit cray"

-Hit me up with some Reps if anything I say has helped! Much love.

Yeah but then I never tell a girl I'm not single unless I've decided to friend-zone her myself.

I hope you get me. I don't cheat. But I don't stop flirting either.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

This is because when you are in a relationship, you know there is no real risk. You have a safety net, a girl that will be there and you know it. Its kind of similar to how people will act more confident or aggressive over the internet. Its because the risk is reduced.

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In addition to the reasons given above, it's also because you have more social proof since women know that you're a pre-selected male. When you have a girlfriend, you have a natural abundance mentality that women can intuitively detect when they're around you.

The problem you're having is that your abundance mentality and confidence are externalized onto your relationship status. To fix it, you need to adopt the mentality to the core of your personality. If you THINK that you're a desirable man, you ACT like a desirable man. But in your case, you only think you're a desirable man when you have tangible evidence (a relationship) that says you are. But remember that this isn't necessary - it's just a state of mind.

And to sub-communicate that you're a preselected male when you don't have a girlfriend, you need to work on purging yourself of a needy/desperate vibe. You can't approach a girl thinking YOU'RE trying to qualify yourself to them, it must be the other way around. Flip the script.

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bleaarrrgh

Damn Hakuna, me and you have such similar outlooks it's ridiculous. So scientifically based, you are my favorite poster on the forum, your info is always pretty much straight and to the point. When I read this thread I was thinking of Mate Copying and you got to it before I did lol.

You've basically been pre-qualified/selected by other females. When you got a woman or multiple around you they know you are pre-qualified as a good mate. People are also sheep we want what everyone else wants, we find attractive what others find attractive. Often times what we find most attractive is decided by our peers.

When you are in a relationship your body language also changes, and mentally you treat every conversation as just what it is, a conversation. When you are in a relationship you are you, nothing matters as far as you getting interviewed(that's what I consider the talking part of trying to hook up) by this chick. I've noticed most guys put pressure on a conversation, they just try and make it more, but in a relationship it doesn't matter.

Having a fun easy going it doesn't fucken matter is the attitude of a confident man(Alpha). I don't mean just don't care, I mean that confident "alphas" have fun, betas stress bull shit. I wrote a blog(it's mentioned in a couple of blogs, and there are some videos) on 2 studies that were done that show that "alphas" just don't stress, the higher your stress the lower your status in society. When you are in a relationship, you aren't stressing anything(especially when it comes to attraction) so you appear "alpha".

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