I'm going to a dining out with a lot of people and there is a girl I like sitting at the table with us and I've only talked to her once. Asuming they don't pick our seats for us, where should I try to sit in relation with her. There will be about 7 of us at a round table.

Also any good ideas for things to do at dinner with her, kino? escalation?

We will also all be going out right after to party.

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Evan/Bear
Tucson
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Yeah Buddy

Close to her but not directly opposite. Try to be as close to 90 degrees to her as possible, or next to her. Just not opposite.

Yeah. Opposite implies a kind of opposition. It was one of the reasons why most modern offices don't have this big imposing desk in the midle of the room anymore. The boss forces you to sit next to him or 90 degrees to him to give an air of cooperation. Of course, until we don't have bosses this is, at best, an optimistic attempt at the illusion of equality.

It doesn't matter if you sit opposite of her, if you maintain strong eye contact that feeling of "opposition" can only get her more attracted to you. You can sit anywhere. If you sit next to her, you can lock more easily. If you sit away, you can work the entire table to build social proof. In other words, play to your strengths and maximize the advantage of every position.

Kino and escalation should be obvious, it's never a question of WHETHER to do them, only of how to do them. The only time you leave them out is if you've already built attraction and are attempting to freeze her out instead to make her chase you.

Go with whatever happens, game fluidly. Don't be overly self conscious of social cues, remember a girl always goes home with whatever guy she's having the most fun with.

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thanks guys, that a huge help!

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Evan/Bear
Tucson
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Yeah Buddy

have some good stories and listen