| Becoming Alpha is a process of discovery rather than invention. You must find your best self, not construct a new one.
Recall from The Game and perhaps other threads here that men end up as naturals and players only because their lives followed a certain favorable path in love and secks. In the spirit of Karl Marx, it is not our conscious that constructs the social structures around us; but the social structures around us that construct our consciousness. Or at least the two are more dynamically related than we think, it is not a one-way street of cause and effect. Betas, AFCs, and white-knighted figureheads follow a similar conditioning, just one that instills very different values and perceptions. A man who has been a leader all his life (baseball captain in elementary school, president of high school, and then an entrepreneur with employees in college) will naturally opt to take charge without fearing the burdens that come with leadership. A man who has been a follower all his life (the beta that follows his Alpha friend, 3 older sisters that conditioned him to worship women), will naturally shy away from positions of leadership, and even confrontations with other women.
There is a key point hidden within this analogy; the distinction between Alpha and Beta is a social construction rather than a genetic one. Sure certain men are born looking like grizzly bears and others like dweebs but, in an increasingly social world; adaptivity in civil situations has become the barometer for evolution. “Survival of the smoothest.” Men who are raised with positively masculine role models will inevitably be more Alpha than betas and more productive and positive to the people around them than Jerks.
However, obviously no amount of conditioning can ever deign to write an ENTIRE script for you, that would be impossible. We don’t keep a conscious reservoir of codes for how we should act in EVERY situation plausible. Instead, we have a certain perception of the world and that perception functions as a GUIDELINE for every situation. So the beta gets jealous of his girlfriend and he instinctively reacts by complaining about his insecurity. The Alpha is unhappy with his girlfriend so he reacts by dumping her, knowing that there are other fish in the sea. One is guided by a needy soul-mate mentality, the other by an apathetic abundance mentality.
Because the Alpha and Beta scripts cannot POSSIBLY be consciously constructed, at least in their entireties, a certain amount of each must be an INNATE REFLECTION of a preprogramed behavior schema. No one ever TOLD the natural “yo, always hold relaxed body language and eye contact,” he just does it because that’s what has always felt COMFORTABLE for him. No one ever TOLD the beta “always get approach anxiety when you see a girl,” he just does because that’s what has always kept him in a SECURE state.
So the ultimate revelation then: Every man has BOTH an Alpha AND a Beta script within himself, and depending on his upbringing, one gets shafted while the other gets exaggerated. Of course we are also very impressionable from a young age and thus you’ll get unique conglomerations of different attitudes (the asshole resentful beta jerk and the white-knite extremely nice Alpha), but for the most part, a certain upbringing dictates the emphasis of a certain script.
And THAT means, you, yes, even you with your womb loving castrated conscious, has a script for “how to be a Man” hidden deep within the recesses of your mind. Your job is not to learn “how do I fake being Alpha?” or “What body language tricks can I use to make people think I’m powerful.” Your job is much simpler, and far more difficult. It is to excavate the script that has been self-oppressed for the larger part of your life and to liberate yourself from the collective chatter that has taught you to be complicit and deluded in your approach towards life.
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