I think this is a make or break question when you've been hitting on a girl. You can only do so well. If you're like me you've been just flying by the arse of your pants with girls most your life without utilizing PUA techniques.

Some of the material I've read says not to ask a girl for her number, as it can leave you open to rejection. I think it was Ross Jeffries who came up with the 'what steps can we take to make sure we can continue this' line, as an alternative. Now I don't know if this makes a girl any more likely to actually give you her number or not. I guess it doesn't really give her a chance to just say no, it means she has to formulate some way to let you down that takes a little more brainwork and balls. What do you guys think?

My personal favourite is rather than asking if I can have her phone number (A), asking what her phone number is (B). 'Can I get your number' .... (A); 'What's your phone number' .... (B). I just feel it's a little more assertive, lets the girl know you can take control and it does make it slightly harder for her to just say no, she has to think of a way to let you down, which is more complicated than just giving you the digits.

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Hi Mr Freeze.

I personally dont ask for numbers anymore. When I say this I dont mean that I have reached a level greater than Mystery or Style themselves, in fact I am just starting to evolve from AFC. I say it because these women have a choice of men to be with. Now when you ask for her number all you are doing is giving her a free confidence boost. If she really is interested then she will be the one to ask. Do not forget the golden saying: "If a woman wants to find you.. she will."

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Make the number an afterthought. This will make it much easier. For instance...let's say you're building comfort and she mentions that she loves thai food. Well, you make plans to grab thai on wednesday night, because you know a secret spot that she'll love. Then you get her number.

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This will help: as you said be more assertive and also change up the words a little from "give me your number" to "give me your digits". better yet hand her your phone with the key pad ready to be typed for her number and tell her "just type in your digits....etc" 95% successful.

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I wrote up all this stuff but it was just abundant basic premise:

1. How you feel about asking a girl for her phone number such as it is a confidence boost to her is how YOU FEEL.

2. Getting a phone number is not a big deal. Don't make it one. It should just be a continuation of the conversation not a stop in it or end of it. Glade is pretty spot on. Just make it a side note. It isn't the climax to the interaction, don't make it that way.

3. Girls rarely offer their number. There are two types of girls that offer their number confident girls, and very attracted girls.

- Confident girls aren't in abundance, rarely do you come across a women that is confident and just says here is my number, no they make sure you exchange numbers

- Very attracted girls happen more often then not after multiple opportunities. It takes a lot of skill to get to the point of just being able to get girls so attracted they give you their number, after only one interaction. Most girls very attracted freeze up and don't think to give you their number because they are so nervous.

4. Have you not realized that guys are still expected to be the aggressor in our world? We are expected to be the strong guy that asks for their number, you can't just change the courtship world for you, it doesn't work like that.

5. "If a woman wants to find you.. she will." - "People who achieve success act." Hoping doesn't give you success. Hoping a girl gives you her number doesn't help get a girls number but asking on the other hand is an action that can certainly bring a positive outcome.

6. I have some very attractive girl friends I hang out with. They are gorgeous women, they DO NOT GO AFTER MEN. They don't give their number out, men they have some attracted to ask for it. Men come after them, sure they do it in all the wrong ways as I've noticed, no "texting" game, too soon, too much, too serious, too gooey, whole nother topic. However if you want to be able to date one of these beautiful, intelligent, fun, dope women you better be confident, you better step to or she will be with some other guy who asked for her number.

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how you ask is pretty damn irrelivant, there are ways to help solidify and screen that fact that she is actually interested, such as getting her to agree to hanging out some time, rather then asking for her number (the number just comes as a result), a girl who is dis-interested is simply dis-interested, even if you corner her into giving you her number, it will still end up a flake if she is not interested, you can also just tell her, let me see your phone, then call yourself, you can pull out your phone and just put it in her hand, you can say, what's your number I'll call you and pull out your phone, you could say, let me get your number, I'll text you some time

things that can help you are making an excuse for why you have to go before you leave,
giving her a reason for why you want the number,

it also helps to follow up on that number sooner rather then later, unless you really made a good impression that you believe will last in her mind, but it is not the way you ask for her phone number that matters, it is the way you are in general that matters and decides if you get the phone number or if it is even useful after getting it

calling your phone with someone elses without their knowledge is creepy/ stalker dont do that.

Planning to meet in the future seems like the best option, I have limited interaction experience but the numbers that I did get, the ones that I ended up meeting with again were the ones that we planned to meet, even if they werent interest in me they still met up with me

You: "I have this....if your around I can show you it"
You: "I'm going to...tomorrow..You would definetly love it if your free you could come"
Them: Yea, sounds like a good idea
You: "Ok, let me have your number and I'll call you tomorrow night" "How does that sound?"
You: "Ok, take my number down and text me so I'll have yours"