For a long while I have realised that people think I'm a sarcastic guy, I didn't really understand it but I paid it no mind because it did not affect anything, at least that's what I thought. Basically, the issue is that I somehow radiate sarcasm and condescension without consciously wanting to do so. What this does is it gives people a false view of how I really think, for example I might really think something is a good idea but when I'm like " you should put it up for suggestion " it sounds as if I'm mocking them.. well that's what they tell me.


I always thought I came off as a not unconfident but just not confident ( if you get what I mean) guy, but it seems as if I come off as maybe even overconfident in some people's eyes and maybe just confident in others I'm not sure haven't talked to many people about this. This overconfident persona is even amplified by my anxiety in social situations (not even anxiety, I just don't know how to respond in certain social situations). For example if.. in fact when (because this always happens) a girl greets me with a normal hello I just walk pass her because I over analyse the situation and am really unsure of what to say, that basically makes them think I'm cocky(understandably so). Not to say I can't talk to women or girls, I just don't know how to respond in that situation. I must admit though my sheer lack of giving a fuck does seem to attract a lot of interest from girls. However, the fact that I don't know how to show that I give a fuck whether through just talking like a normal person and not as though I'm talking as if I'm superior to them OR actually being friendly ( basically I never want to be seen as that guy that's over friendly, if you know what I mean so I tend to refrain from really putting myself out there). I think it should be noted though that people tend to think I'm funny, but when I say something funny I don't smile very much(I think that might actually add to the problem). Also, my friend said I sometimes talk with an emotionless voice (wtf) but he said its mostly as though I'm really confident.

Anyway, I would just like to know if there is any way I could get rid of this excessively sarcastic tone or at least to put it under control.

Practice talking in front of a mirror and into a taperecorder and listen to yourself. Imagine yourself being someone else and when you dont wanna beat yourself up anymore, you have improved.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

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