Hey guys,

Beforehand I just want to go into my ideal of thought. Basically I've been reading this forum for awhile trying to get ideas of how women think etc./how to be more confident and all that, but I'm having one issue. There's a girl that I want to be in a relationship with, but I don't know how to go about it.

Second off, I've never had a girlfriend, which makes shit difficult to comprehend since I missed the prime period to do so (just graduated high school). I overthink things alot, trying to picture how it should/would go, but I'm lost.
Hopefully you normal guys out there that aren't JUST interested in laying can help me out here, because the lines between pick up and relationships are getting so blurred for me that it's difficult to see what is real and practical when you want to make something real.

Ok so here we go....

There's this girl, I know I'm getting "oneitis" and all that, but basically I know that she's a cool chick that I'd like to spend alot of time with. The difference between oneitis and this though for me is that if she doesn't want to be in a relationship, I'd be cool with that...there's plenty more fish in the sea. I'm confident enough now that I know obsessing and putting all my cards into one thing can lead to a bad state of mind and stress me out when hanging out.

The reason I'm putting so much thought into this though is that
I WANT TO MAKE A MOVE BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE. This chick doesn't have a boyfriend right now, and she has everything I'm looking for, it'd be a waste to just "hope" for something to happen before it's too late. I want to jump into her life and steal her away lol.

Relationships are inevitable and I need to get this part of my life handled as well. If I make a shot and fail, oh well, lesson learned.

Now...

-I've been friendly with this girl for awhile now (few months). We're kind of friendly but I tease etc. and sometimes she gets playful

-We made out, but we were intoxicated and played it off like nothing happened the next day, we're currently back to the first point, playful and friendly, totally not awkward in any way. I could've made a move for sex but didn't feel right about it not knowing if in our drunkenness it was real, and a smart decision in the morning.
I figured she'd wake up feeling like she was taken advantage of, and thought that would fuck everything over (trust) since I've had a plan to date her from the start.

Today she was like "oh that guy is so cute" etc. (not physically but this guy that she used to know around girls etc.), but I feel like this is her trying to maybe raise status or something, or just genuinely thought that and wanted to share it. I just kinda smiled and listened but didn't bother getting into specifics.
I feel like there's something buried underneath us that can be pulled out. We made out, that must be something, even if drunk. She was a little tipsy early in the night, but hung around me.
Now, here's what I was thinking, I want to hang out with her alone. My first step is just to have a fun night hanging out with her, she's busy quite a bit though and has alot of friends (the friends are the only thing that dampen my confidence a bit, she's alwayyys with friends, makes me feel a bit like "just another friend" in a way, but that's me overthinking)

If we both have fun for the "hang out", I'd like to either ask her out on a date for the next hang out, or just tell her how I feel and see how she feels about me on the drive home after doing something fun outside. I don't want to grill her right off the bat with all this serious news.

What should I do?

I read a book once that said "never verbalize your intentions". This has me confused. If I outright tell this chick I like her, is it gonna kill the attraction (I'm still unsure if we even have attraction, we're just really friendly with each other. Being drunk confuses me cause I don't know what is real or not, so I don't use that as a definitive guideline for her as a sober person)? Does this mean I have to hang with her and push sexual attraction bit by bit until the relationship just becomes apparent?

Plenty of people have girlfriends, I'm sure they didn't all luck out by shit "just happening naturally". I'm sure plenty just straight up told a chick they liked her, and hung out.

Can anyone just give me a course of action? I can't believe I don't know this common sense stuff. It's a little past the "hey wanna go out" stage.

I'm kind of pumped to let her know, I just want to get it out of me so confidence isn't a huge issue since I'm not afraid of rejection.

What I am afraid of though is fucking up my course of action (making it weird maybe, bad timing etc.) and missing out on something that otherwise probably could've happened.

Thanks guys

Mate, remember there are 3 billion women out there, hundreds of thousands if not more perfect matches.

Don't tell her you like her blatantly. DO NOT! If you didn't get that DO NOT!!!!! If you want this girl, make a date with her, hang out wherever; movies, park, dancing (clubbing) and build attraction. Try and create a sexual tension, touching, getting close. Try to kiss her when you feel the time is right - as you said. If she doesn't comply, means she doesn't like you. Game over. Sorry but that's life. Move onto the next game.

As Zippo said. But I would only add this thing- Don`t tell her that you like her! Show her that with all those things Zippo mentioned. Don`t talk, show her. Really

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Thanks guys,

I guess I should just go against my feelings right now and try to push things naturally. Hell, if escalation can't occur "naturally" it'd be weirder trying to force it after she heard the news in the first place.

I think the final piece of the puzzle is figuring out how to work my way back up to a kiss and escalate the relationship again...but sober this time lol. The night of the party I was trying to get her to dance and being more aggressive, but outside of the party SPAM it feels really unnatural to me still.
She seems a little more shy too. Sometimes she's talkative and other times she's quiet, which gets me overthinking stuff about the possibilities.

I just wish there was a fast forward button, our schedules never work out to hang out, and I'm just afraid of the fire burning out. Kind of why I was feeling so rushed to just tell her.

Well, at least I learned a lesson from this before blowing this opportunity.

Thanks again