Quote:
So there is a girl, we are sort of dating. Not serious relationship, mostly sexual.
1. Can somebody please give me good details on how NOT TO be a nice guy, while not being too mean? She often says that I am very mean to her all the time but dont think she really means it. Will it turn her off if I am too mean? Please help me out...
ALSO, can you help me with how much attention I should be giving to that type of girl... I am really sucky on this one.
^ 2. HOW OFTEN and HOW to contact her? (phone, FB chat, FB wall).
Help me please. TY
Why is this in the natural forum?
1 - Basically it's just the push-pull theory, if you are nice once, be "mean" once. Being mean actually means teasing her without actually being mean (ie, if she is insecure about her weight, don't crack jokes about her being on the fat side). She will lose interest if you are being genuinely mean (if she doesn't, run away).
2 - How I do it is contact once a week to setup a date, keep the convo short. If you spend too much time, you'll A) have less to talk about on said date, B)display clingly behaviour. Then I will contact either a day prior or on the morning of date day to confirm last minute details.
If she contacts you, keep the convo short, but you need to be a busy man (if you aren't, you need to be, get hobbies).
Keep the cute talk out until you have confirmed that you are exclusive, while you think a "Good morning sweetie" everyday is cute, you'll slowly look clingy. If you really want to send her a text or w/e, should be at random times with something funny to increase her excitement ("I just saw the cutest squirrel with nuts in his hands, totally reminded me of you ;P Good morning!").
Remember if she's attracted, she will want to talk to you as bad as you do, she will also contact, if not, I would start looking elsewhere.
Cheers!